Posted by oceanwench on January 08, 2001 at 15:09:55:
In Reply to: Re: Five Breaking up With a Four posted by Dorga on December 30, 2000 at 18:24:17:
Well, I am a 5w4 so I sometimes see things from both perspectives, although I have to admit that the emotional scenes of a 4 (seems to be most of my female family) leaves me in a state of horror...terrified horror. I think that 5's feel just as deeply as a 4 might, but that because we have a fear of rejection or appearing foolish we become rigid. The fours may make a hell of a scene, but they get over it more quickly it seems...they throw things, scream, sometimes threaten suicide. A five stares at them, looks for the nearest door to bolt from, and spends the next 10 years agonizing over the broken relationship, dreaming of the person, wishing, numbing themself out with projects, alchohol, food, drugs, work, etc. Yet, there is the 4, remarried with new kids (or something similar) with a smile stretched from ear to ear.
When I am deep into my fourness I tend to like gifts or gestures which are very unique and sentimental...something symbolic of the relationship itself. It is very difficult for me to let go of the past without feeling it is significant spiritually and emotionally. I am not sure, of course, but I think this comes from the 4. Just a thought.....give your 4 the emotional uniqueness they crave. Dont make it just an ORDINARY breakup...leave it as two souls going on seperate journeys. Perhaps let them know exactly what you love about the person, what you like, what you enjoyed that was unique to them and that you will never forget and never find again. Make sure you tell them you'll never find it again.