AMEN, Margaret!!!

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: : When people find out I am actually a "loner" I get easily embarrassed to the point of trying to act like I was not really. : : But this is bullcrud. : : Being a "loner" does not mean anyone is psychotic, ill, anit-social, sick, etc. : : If anything, it means being well balanced and personally and emotionally strong, healthy and positive. : : Having time alone to gather your thoughts and feelings and decide what needs to be worked on, tossed out, and improved on in your life is vital to your interior growth with self and God - which i turn is vital to your exterior growth with others, both intimate and social. : : It doesn't take much to observe that people who do not take this vital time out to make critical assessments regarding the emotional and personal quality time of they consciously decide to spend live thier life - how they currently are in comparison to how they currently would like to live with self and others - are just re-acting with no regard and no conscious thought that pro-actively adresses poistively the consequences of their current relationships with other people. : : We don't have to look too far to see that many self-help therapies, groups, and books address precisely this very poor outcome of such "no time out" relating - "co-dependancy" problems exist for people who do not take the necessary time off to decide for themselves how to better arrange what goes on in their life, to improve the quality living of it. : : So, as far as I'm concerned - taking time off to be alone to gather your thoughts, feelings, and to assess where you currently stand on difficult issues and how you can better move proactivley in a way that improves it, may sound "silly" yet, in reality, are deadly critical and deadly serious (heart attacks, ulcers, strokes, etc. are most likely all highly caused by stress, by not taking time out to deal with our personal life intelligently), is a smart and healthy positive thing to do. : : (Also, I do not need any smart aleck remarks saying that too much time alone is also not good right now. I already heard that and already know that and do not need to hear it again, thank you.) : : Besdies, as far as I'm concerned that should be simply obvious by what I have written above. : : The whole idea of reserving time alone to "recouperate" is meant to improve the quality time you spend with others when you are not alone but with them. : : Again, those who do not take this time to do so, end up getting stuck in a downward spiral of negative quality time with others and instead of cutting the loss, hold on, and end up getting more poor, negative quality time with each other. : : I've seen people who treat each other horribly with such utmost disrespect and such drastic negative relating, that their spirits and hearts affect their physical bodies and you can see how sick they are with serious health problems. : : ALmost as if they die physically because it's the body's way of making them "shrink/go away" from all the spiritual and emotional negativite energy that is killing their souls and will to live, to keep "taking" it. : : I say your body and mind "knows" when you come close to being spiritually and emotionally bankrupt. : : You cannot go on living in life accepting people's "junk", negative derogatory treatment, as if you were a garbage disposal that thrived off of accepting all people's negative energy. : : People just can't use you up to unload off all their negative energy. It eventually kills you. : : To sit and constantly take it is a form of slow suicide. : : But, my point is, this is hard to "catch" most the time. : : That's why it's most likely best for us to leave from time to time so we can see what is happening with our spiritual and emotional energies, where we are at with this and how to better proceed with this, our relations and behaviours. : : In conclusion: hurray for fives who take time off to assess and strategize the quality of our emotional, spiritual and personal time spent with ouselves, our God and others, (both those close to us, and society in general).

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