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Re: How do you get a 5 to change?

Re: How do you get a 5 to change?

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Posted by Laurence on July 28, 2000 at 13:38:53:

In Reply to: How do you get a 5 to change? posted by Curious on July 27, 2000 at 19:00:00:

You NEVER change people unless they have a desire to. Don't forget that human condition is freedom over our inner processes. How hard or harsh it may sound to you, there is noway you'll ever force a person to love you if he/she has no desire or insentive to. Some people are very skilled at forcing other to comply to their wishes in terms of behavior, but it always backfires.
We are all different, and no one is better than any other one, the world is made of the complementarity of each. Now interactions go both ways, it is a dynamic process. If you change your attitude and claims, they may change too, but the way they'll change belong to them, it might not be what you expect. There is nothing worse than expectations to sure ruin any relationship.

: Hi There!

: I have two 5's in my life (fiance and sister) who are impossible to get to change. I mean that they don't even see how they turn everything into a thought and avoid feeling emotions. It's so obvious to me and others but they can't see it. They seem to have so little energy to change. It's like pulling teeth. HELP!

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: You NEVER change people unless they have a desire to. Don't forget that human condition is freedom over our inner processes. How hard or harsh it may sound to you, there is noway you'll ever force a person to love you if he/she has no desire or insentive to. Some people are very skilled at forcing other to comply to their wishes in terms of behavior, but it always backfires. : We are all different, and no one is better than any other one, the world is made of the complementarity of each. Now interactions go both ways, it is a dynamic process. If you change your attitude and claims, they may change too, but the way they'll change belong to them, it might not be what you expect. There is nothing worse than expectations to sure ruin any relationship. : : : Hi There! : : I have two 5's in my life (fiance and sister) who are impossible to get to change. I mean that they don't even see how they turn everything into a thought and avoid feeling emotions. It's so obvious to me and others but they can't see it. They seem to have so little energy to change. It's like pulling teeth. HELP!

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