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Enneagram Type 5 Board Archive Re: 5s in relationships... common couples??Posted by chuck on July 29, 2000 at 21:45:55: In Reply to: 5s in relationships... common couples?? posted by eowyn on July 29, 2000 at 19:41:49: A very interesting topic. But this is my question for all 5's. Assuming you have a relationship with a 9, what could be a potential threat to you relationship from someone who is not a 5? (This question apply to all other types you, as a 5, might have a relationship with....) For this instance (5-9), I'd like to single out 2's to be the most dangerous threat. A longe relationship with 5's can make 2's appear very applealing to 9's. In other word, if you are 5, please keep a healthy jealousy against 2's. ======================================================================== : I was just curious as to everyone elses experience with relationships, and specifically 9s... I only know 3 other type 5s, all of whom have 4 wings, and I myself am a 5w6, but very unstereotypical 5.. (im not a nerd... ((usually!)) and am usually very confident and often very comfortable in social situations based mostly on the self assuredness Ive built over years of experience interacting with people...) : Bascially, every other 5 I know, or have heard of through other people, has at some point had a romantic relationship with a 9, and many of them were very healthy wonderful relationships.. although not all of them lasted, for various reasons, though some certainly have. I myself am now in a relatinship with a 9w1, and it is the most amazing experience of life so far, he is absolutely wonderful.. he is rather healthy, and we share many interests and tastes, as well as very similay views about the world and society, and at the same time, we also have some interests of our own that the other has no care for, and we have no problems giving each other the space to pursue them in, and sometimes to teach each other about.. he is also the most caring, genuine person Ive ever known, and assuades any inkling of 6wing anxiety I ever get with his constant reminders of how much he loves me, and at the same time he does not do so in a way to make me feel overwhelmed, or to make him appear codependent or parasitic (which woould be one of the first critetia to say goodbye..) : Most other 5s I know who have had decent healthy relationships with a moderately healthy 9 (healthy enough to have developed his/her own sense of identity and integrity) describe the relationship in much the same way I have, so heres my call for others who have also had this experience, with 9s, and otherwise.. : Since I dont know many other 5s personally, this is my chance to draw on everyone here for their own input... : So share your experiences!
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