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Enneagram Type 5 Board Archive Re: 5s in relationships... common couples??Posted by The Zen Cowgirl on July 30, 2000 at 03:09:13: In Reply to: Re: 5s in relationships... common couples?? posted by chuck on July 29, 2000 at 21:45:55: I've never had any kind of serious relationship with a 9, although two good friends of mine whom I dated awhile back are 9/1s. Much as I enjoy their company, I thought each of them lacked enough fire to really meet me head-on. I'm a 5/4, and though I dislike conflict I can be pretty aggressive when I need to be, and am always looking for a good argument! I tend to end up with a lot of very strong 1s and 7s. The 1s sooner or later tend to think I'm undisciplined, and I find them too nitpicky and judgmental. The 7s seem to think I'm too serious, and I don't have the energy to keep up with every single momentary wild enthusiasm they have. I had a long-term relationship with a 6/7 that was a lot of fun, but he was financially irresponsible which did not bode well for keeping things secure on the home front. Other than that, we were very compatible; he knew I was weird, but thought it was interesting. The worst matches I ever made were with a 2/1 who thought he could somehow "tame" me, and a 4/3 who was too busy bonking everything in sight, and using his terrible childhood as an excuse. I've had a difficult time of it romantically as a female 5/4; a lot of men have found me fascinating, only to back away when they realize that I never "shut it off" so to speak. Everything is open to being questioned. That I need a lot of privacy doesn't help, either.
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