Book Recommendation

Posted by Robin on July 31, 2000 at 22:50:01:

In Reply to: 5s in relationships... common couples?? posted by eowyn on July 29, 2000 at 19:41:49:

I concur with Laurence. There are a lot of variables that determine whether a relationship will be sucessful. Probably more factors than Enneagram theory can reliably predict.

Also, visitors to the 5 Board are a small, non-random (i.e., self-selected) sample of mostly 5s, each with a relatively small sample of personal experiences.

So, we can rationalize and speculate about "ideal pairings," but I think it's probably best to look at empirical data from a formal study. For that, I recommend the book "Are You My Type, Am I Yours?" by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele. (Unfortunately, the authors include no data on sample size.)

According to Baron & Wagele, for female 5s, male 5s represent the "most common" choice of a mate. (B and W don't actually quantify "most common.") Pairings with male 6s and 9s are said to be "quite common"; with male 1s, 2s, 7s and 8s "less common"; and with male 3s and 4s the "least common."

For male 5s, pairings with female 2s are the "most common." Pairings with female 1s are "quite commmon" and pairings with all other females are "less common."

There is no data on satisfaction level associated with each type of pairing. The data only reveals the most prevalent pairings among those who are in a relationship.

Robin
Male 5w4, INTJ

P.S. Re: Babelfish's post below. I just took the New Test a second time and discovered that I'm one of the 5/4 hybrids.

E5: Plus 9
E4: Plus 8
E8: Plus 4

All other scores were zero or negative, with the lowest being E1 at minus 8.

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