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Enneagram Type 5 Board Archive Re: Sorry to see all these critical remarks from Fives, Curious, but... (continued inside)Posted by Curious on August 02, 2000 at 18:44:10: In Reply to: Sorry to see all these critical remarks from Fives, Curious, but... (continued inside) posted by Robin on August 02, 2000 at 14:41:30: HE is brilliant at what he does, an ER physician, but he constantly complains that he doesn't feel he's making a difference in people's lives. Medicine is patchwork and he has picked the best way to "patch" people (his words not mine). He is terrified of going on his own in practice but hates the politics of hospital medicine. He wants to make a change but admits that he doesn't know how. So, it's not my judgement only. In the meantime I try to be supportive to him. I encourage him to use his spare time to develop hobbies and do things for himself, rather than read, do little chores around the house, contemplate, and be by himself. The problem is that I can see and feel the yearning he has to change that goes with his words. It's not something I am making up. He is between a rock and a hard place and stays stuck. I want him to move because we both agree he needs to. We don't know how though. Thank you for your help! : You have not justified your position with examples. The phrasing of your message suggest that we start from the assumption that you are right and the two Fives in your life are wrong. : Furthermore, when you say "change," I presume that you mean change for the better. This means that you consider their current state suboptimal and unsatisfactory to you. : To say that you want an unsatisfactory situation to change is the same as saying that you want the situation fixed. In this case, you want those two people to be "fixed." Essentially, you've imposed the judgment that these two people are dysfunctional, in your opinion, and therefore need to be "fixed." : How did you come to be engaged to be married to a man that you consider dysfunctional?
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