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Enneagram Type 5 Board Archive Re: Feeling exposed after conversations.Posted by Zen Cowgirl on August 02, 2000 at 19:03:36: In Reply to: Feeling exposed after conversations. posted by WingPrayer on August 02, 2000 at 18:30:28:
: I know we fives (or is it wee fives) should try to interact more, but I'm wondering if any others have the problem of feeling too exposed after conversations - particularly when you have those intellectually intense conversations that you really enjoy (and we laguh at life's irony). I have no problem with my family (wife and kid) but outside of that some of my best conversations are followed by some very uneasy feelings without there having been any (that i observed) rasons for them. Any ideas, similar thoughts/feelings?) I think part of it is because when I really get rolling and start sharing some of my ideas or views, I sometimes feel like I've given away too much about myself. It's ridiculous, to be sure, but I tend to be very self-protective in the first place. I had the Five childhood in spades--while well-meaning and not abusive, my parents were very intrusive, and the only guaranteed privacy I could find was inside my own head. I have, over the years, learned to be more forthcoming when talking to other people, but after one of those intense, stimulating conversations I feel like I got too caught up in the intensity and even the passion of the moment and said something best kept under wraps. It's a fear of exposure, really. I used to be very secretive and paranoid, frankly. It's only been in the last few years that I've shed a lot of that, but once in a while I still feel it coming up. If I stop and look at it and say, "this is an irrational anxiety--why is it there?" and look at it, it helps a lot.
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