Posted by K.B. on April 01, 2001 at 20:24:08:
In Reply to: Re: Volume 3 posted by Diarmuid on April 01, 2001 at 19:31:52:
: What are you doing here, "mutt"? There is an admission charge here of at least a 98 IQ and you don't quite make this level. No bar here either, SO GET LOST.
: : There is something known as a rite of passage {to adulthood in this case}. For some it may be a first drink, or job, or voting or joining the Army. I now realize that for Emily it is the computer and possibly this board. Now how do I say that?
: : Well, considering the age and the juvenile tone of some of her posts combined with the adult tone of others, I now can see a youth striving to achieve independence and stand on her own and due to her stated introversion------ using the net as her place to do it.
: : Considering also her low scoring one, it shows a "free spirit" strongly opposed to FIRM and SURE one type thinking which to her is something her elders would have implemented especially in younger days that she now wants to outgrow. Not that strong one is so antagonistic to her, but only if she feels it directed to her. See? And this {combined with her 6/2 flashpoints} made her feel dislike against K.B. One quote that I paraphrase "Something about you I don't like".
: : Ah, but my own strong and top four felt a strong anger against having my creativity ignored in favor of silly or less meaningful posts {name my cat!} posted by popular names, and combined with my own six and eight flashpoints..........
: : Now her own 6/2 flashpoints triggered off when I complained of the answering of posts by name and not content. The 6 felt "He wants to treat me as a child and doesn't recognize my maturing" {hence she called ME a whiner} and the 2 felt "K.B. is doing what Emily never had the courage to do in calling the popular for what they are". Of course Emily felt it all directed towards her as she was the alpha female {who now has to share it more} and felt afraid of losing that perch that she was identifying with her path to maturity and combine that with her dismay at seeing another do what she wished she could do outside.......it led to conflict within her.
: : I could say the boyfriend is her rite of passage, but you know that this summer when she returns to his house..... the boy's mother is {as a one} going to renew the sniping and belittling of Emily again. Why? It is basically about control of her boyfriend and the mother's son and it won't be easy for anyone.
: : The most likely outcome is Emily leaving in a huff to go back to Nebraska. She won't ask the boyfriend to go with her but she will want him to. The mother will use her coercion. The boy will stay and the romance will be over. But! If Emily were different and more open, I could have shown her how to get around the situation and how to disarm the type one mother and win. It would only take an estimation of the mother's full test scores and a juxtaposition with Emily's to analyze it and come up with a surefire plan.
: : My mistake with Emily was in not realizing her web rite of passage. How could I know? I didn't read her scores until after she began to snipe at me, misinterpret my words and delete posts that showed her wrong. And I'm only human and have issues too. But when she ignored and deleted my apology post........... well, I count and put a lot of work into these boards and helped a lot of people too.
: : And the only thing K.B. lied about was being a postal worker.