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Enneagram Type 5 Board Archive Re: is there a 5 willing to help me?Posted by agamemnon on September 29, 2000 at 01:08:13: In Reply to: is there a 5 willing to help me? posted by Kasandra on September 28, 2000 at 23:52:10: I'm sorry to hear of your woes. As to your problem, I would suggest you get a place of your own and live separate from him. He will never make a commitment to you if you give him everything for free. Right now you are a live in free prostitute to him. (I know that seems harsh but think about it) You seem to be subordinating your own personality to accomodate his. But do you really want to live the rest of your life afraid that your emotional traits will be offputting to him. It seems he takes you for granted. Move out. If he loves you he will still wish to see you. Go on dates. Try not having sex (why buy the cow if you get the milk for free). This will encourage you both to develop as friends. Any one can have sex, it takes someone special to be a good friend. Finally, I think you need some time alone. Think seriously about your needs and desires and what you want out of marriage and what you will give. Does he wish to see you happy and fulfilled? If not than what is the point. I too am a 5 but I am not this moody or brooding. I don't like crowds, but I truly enjoy the company of a few good friends. And I am a deeply committed person. Perhaps you have a bad five. This my humble opinion.
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