Re: is there a 5 willing to help me?

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: : Living together before marriage is a bad idea. Almost all relationships : : that start this way and go to marriage end in divorce. Why? Who knows. : WRONG! : Either you don’t know very many people (and so are drawing conclusion from too small of a database), or you are like the vast majority of people who only notice that which corresponds to your own preconceived notions. You already think that people who live together before marriage will end up in divorce so you only notice when they do. : A small survey of my own family in my generation (first cousins and siblings) would show the following results: : Cousin Kent: Lived with girlfriend for four years, has been married for twenty-seven. : Cousin Connie: Did not live with first husband before marriage, marriage lasted ten years before divorce. Lived with second husband for about a year before marriage, marriage has lasted 12 years. : Cousin Cynthia: Did not live with first husband before marriage, marriage lasted 17 years before divorce. Did not live with second husband, marriage has lasted five years. : Cousin Silvia: Lived with boyfriend for two years, has been married for twenty years. : Older brother Tony: Did not live with wife before marriage, marriage has lasted 18 years. : Sister Candy: Did not live with husband before marriage, marriage has lasted 12 years. : Younger brother Tim: Lived with first wife for seven years before marriage, they were married for ten years before she died of cancer. Did not live with second wife before marriage, marriage ended within two years. : Cousin Christine: Did not live with husband before marriage, has been married five years. : Cousin Steve: Did not live with wife before marriage, has been married three years. : Cousin Diane: Never married, never lived with anyone. : Cousin Peter: Never married, never lived with anyone (as far as I know). : Back in the early seventies when my cousin Kent was living with his wife before their marriage, everyone in my family were all afraid of what my grandmother would think if she found out about it. She shocked everybody by saying that she thought it was a good idea, she said that if Dorothy (Kent’s mother) had lived with either of her husbands before marriage then should would never have married either of them. : My brother Tim has told me that if he had lived with his second wife before marriage the he would not have made the worst mistake in his life by marrying her. : Living together before marriage is a very good idea. Kasandra, maybe you can work things out with your boyfriend, I think that CJ has given you the best advise, but if it doesn’t work out then you should be glad that you aren’t married to the jerk you’re living with, getting out of the bad situation would be a hundred times worse.

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