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Enneagram Type 5 Board Archive Post this crap on the 4 boardPosted by JP on November 04, 2001 at 18:29:49: In Reply to: Re: Pudding posted by Emily on November 04, 2001 at 17:21:47: : It has been mine. I've known, and know, tons of people that I see in various situations, who act differently in each one. [Are you deliberately misinterpreting me?!!! You took all of my comments out of context and responded senselessly! For instance, you cut my "This has not been my experience" and said all that crap about "various situations", when in fact what I said was "My experience has been that people act fairly consistently within their type in all circumstances....If I saw these same individuals in other settings sure their behavior would be contextually appropriate, but the *flavor* of each's action would reflect their type". You responded only to the first few words of my post without addressing the *content*! OF COURSE they act differently in each one! Did you even *read* my post?! What I said was that each individual acts "consistently within their type" and that in different settings their behavior would be "contextually appropriate". If you're going to deliberately misconstrue what I said and not address my point then why bother posting?] : When I'm at a class in school, I sit alone. Despite my classroom experience as a tutor, I am very uncomfortable being the student. I don't ask questions, I never talk, and I'm very concerned with the way I look and am embarrassed if I woke up and didn't have time to do my makeup. Why am I like this at school and not at work? Well, at school, it seems that everyone there is so incredibly concerned with appearances. They themselves wear the most uncomfortable clothes (that look good, though), that I couldn't imagine getting up 4 hours before school to put on. The girls are all thin and perfect, and the guys notice. It's a very fourish reaction, feeling different, flawed, self-conscious, and out-of-place. [Now this I like! You are sharing your personal experience. This is a contrast for me as a 5...I've never been a tutor, but I think I would feel much more self-conscious telling people what to do. Whereas, as a student, I have always felt comfortable asking questions. And in a learning environment I don't recall ever feeling flawed or self-conscious.] : My mom is a two. She has the loudest laugh of anyone I know. [Yes. This is why I qualified my post; no generalizations are absolute.] : How was he able to see into their past to find their core motivations, beginning in childhood? [Personally, I feel like your objection to being able to type people quickly is some weird 4 thing, based upon this (in my mind erroneous) concept of "uniqueness", of not wanting to be "put in a box" or put others in a box. You resist being quantified and analyzed and categorized, because you are so "special" and "unique". So instead of allowing the possibility of some external entity being able to quantify your motivations based upon your body language, behavior, and intonation, you instead cling to the (in my mind silly) belief that type is some mystical thing that can only be determined by oneself after a good deal of soul searching or something. To type someone we must relive their entire childhood, elicit their core motivations, delve into that special uniqueness they possess as individuals, eh? Well, goddamnit, I disagree! Why not post this crap on the 4-board where it might be appreciated more? You don't see me on the 4-board saying how stupid emotions are do you?] I would like to know how 5's feel about this. Am I really off-base here, or is Emily mired in some 4-ish interpretation?
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