Re: trusting others

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: I guess there is a BIG need to discreminate between "passion" and "healthy bonding". The former is like a tidal wave, rushes from our sub-conscious and sweeps us in its powerful motion towards the object of "passion". However some types thrive on this kind of high energy (especially 4s, 7s and 8s)with the HUGE danger that these waves always have an end and that those types are so often unable to make the transition to another type of relating, they seek the excitement of a new passion, not a strong bond. The latter form of love is a lot less glamorous for it implies openness, a lot of mutual honesty and efforts, it implies the sharing of strong values and common projects, it is oriented towards building in the long run and includes listening, tenderness, support, etc... You carry it instead of being carried by it. It is "team" effort and team strength. : : : I have rarely ever opened myself up to any others because I could never trust anyone. : : And that was the only smartest thing I've ever done. : : Of course until I made my one single dumb mistake. : : I only opened myself up to one person my whole life and that was this past last year. : : Of course that was also the biggest mistake I ever made my whole life. : : It killed me and my confidence and trust in the idea of "love". I once again, am back to normal, in no longer believing it exists, but only as a figment of one's imagination. : : But this is what I have always believed all along anyway. : : It's just that before, very unlike right now, I never had any real kind of hard, concrete, hard evidence and proof that "romatic, true love" does not really exist after all, but only as a fairy tale, a kind of comic cruel 'joke', that if could ever exist in the first place, only would be nothing but a kind of cruel, evil, bitter trap for the unitiated to get suckered into and learn the hard way. : : I guess after just one God awful cruel evil experience like this is all one really has to have to learn one's lessons though. : : "Love" as in "true love" does not exist. Only figments of one's imagination does. : : Always beware. : : Keep eyes wide open at all times. : : If you ever risk them shut, you will get stabbed. : : Nailed in the head. : : With a hammer.

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