Re: trusting others

Posted by cj on October 23, 2000 at 17:48:45:

In Reply to: trusting others posted by LD on October 21, 2000 at 10:16:02:

I found the other posts to be so inspirational, I hope you do too, L.D.

I too had my heart utterly broken and smashed last year, thought I'd never recover, and lost all faith in my ability to love. I think something else that other's haven't mentioned here is that you need to have faith to have love. Like the faeries in the forest, you have to truly believe in them to see them. Don't rush yourself. Feel bad, feel awful, go through all of it. But also let it pass.

Somehow I managed to do this, even though it was horrid and scary (mostly the loss of faith in myself), and came out better and stronger in the end.

Now I'm in love, of the fourish (me and my beloved are both fours, so it's been really intense) variety, but thankfully I have found someone who is extremely healthy and capable of deep feeling and more importantly, effort, where love is concerned. Laurence is right, love takes work, which I think people often ignore. They think that if it feels good, it should be easy, effortless. That is entirely wrong. If it feels good, you should put the most amount of effort into minding your manners, treating the other person with kindness and compassion. The trick, I think, is to find someone who is as aware of these requirements as you are, and is as capable as you are of fulfilling them.

I have great sympathy for your situation. I am sorry, it is incredibly painful to feel so betrayed.

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