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To KB, Anonymous, Laurence, Rotten Apple, birds, others - re: being w/ others vs. being alone

To KB, Anonymous, Laurence, Rotten Apple, birds, others - re: being w/ others vs. being alone

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Posted by Margaret on November 13, 2000 at 19:30:13:

Thank you KB, Anon, Laurence for your kindness, encouragement, support - I was feeling really down that day, that moment - I guess we all go through those moments - Rotten Apple - you do have a point - that is very realistic good advice, thanks, and true- I *do* confess I really enjoy the security of not putting myself out to risk rejection and -well, actually it's not so much rejection as the reason why I distance myself from others - it's more *lack of power* that makes me push people away or move/ keep myself away from them.

I don't want to lose control or power. And more often than not- I always end up feeling that my power, space, leverage, is so minimal and scarce - whenever I risk reaching out to someone- there's always that need to 'keep the distance' with them - lest they step too much in my 'space', and take over what little control and power I have left...

So basically I know that is the main reason why I am alone more often than not- hard to give up power and space in exchange for not being alone.

I guess I could have got a better response from others had i structured it more of - any one else feel/deal with the same struggle: being alone with no power/space vs. being powerless (thus helpless) when in th company of another?

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You give us too much credit! Anonymous 18:09:05 11/14/00 (0)
I think K.B. 03:20:51 11/14/00 (0)
You've drained all the fun out of being a jerk! :) Rotten Apple 23:22:55 11/13/00 (1)
- Re: You've drained all the fun out of being a jerk! :) Laurence 03:47:08 11/14/00 (0)
the world's greatest mystery/question - anyone figure this out? M 20:40:21 11/13/00 (5)
- Finding others {on the computer first?} who think like you N.T. K.B. 02:46:11 11/14/00 (2)
  - Re: Finding others {on the computer first?} who think like you N.T. K.B. 04:58:32 11/16/00 (0)
  - Re: Finding others {on the computer first?} yes, set up a site! Laurence 03:50:33 11/14/00 (0)
- 5s LD 21:20:45 11/13/00 (0)
- yeah.. LD 21:14:07 11/13/00 (0)

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: Thank you KB, Anon, Laurence for your kindness, encouragement, support - I was feeling really down that day, that moment - I guess we all go through those moments - Rotten Apple - you do have a point - that is very realistic good advice, thanks, and true- I *do* confess I really enjoy the security of not putting myself out to risk rejection and -well, actually it's not so much rejection as the reason why I distance myself from others - it's more *lack of power* that makes me push people away or move/ keep myself away from them. : I don't want to lose control or power. And more often than not- I always end up feeling that my power, space, leverage, is so minimal and scarce - whenever I risk reaching out to someone- there's always that need to 'keep the distance' with them - lest they step too much in my 'space', and take over what little control and power I have left... : So basically I know that is the main reason why I am alone more often than not- hard to give up power and space in exchange for not being alone. : I guess I could have got a better response from others had i structured it more of - any one else feel/deal with the same struggle: being alone with no power/space vs. being powerless (thus helpless) when in th company of another?

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