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Enneagram Type 5 Board Archive Re: Not enough time alonePosted by Ryan (65.141.164.169) on September 21, 2002 at 18:42:31: In Reply to: Not enough time alone posted by RoTtEn ApPlE (204.30.207.172) on September 21, 2002 at 15:29:25: > I am so happy today... I have the house to myself... for a few more hours anyway. I haven't so totally shared my living space with anyone since I got my own room at age 6. In fact, at times in my life I've lived in places where I've never even had visitors over. I'm shifting to feeling more solitary lately and I'm feeling a strong need for my own space... and with that comes a desire to vanish (the thing that worries my man the most... that I will leave suddenly with hardly a word). > I wonder if a 5 can consistantly share her life and space with another person... even another 5. Maybe I'm just panicking at the realization this relationship may not end. The cashier at HomeDepot called us a 'couple'... we both balked at the word... then had to admit it was true. I don't understand why two 5s wouldn't realize each other's need to be alone once in a while. Why doesn't your partner feel a similar need to be away from you and alone for a while? Why is he more worried that you'll leave him than you're worried that he'll leave you, especially after you already mentioned that he thinks that perhaps you're not "the one?" Personally, I don't even see the need for a 5 couple to live together except for the fact it saves money. But if both of you make enough money to afford your own places then why not just keep up the "strong friendship" while having your own space? I guess I'm just confused because I would think ideally 5s would understand each other best but it sounds like even the two of you have communication problems. Try dating a 1 if you want some real problems. Ryan
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