Re: are all 4's screwed up?

Posted by six sense (68.5.121.53) on December 06, 2002 at 00:40:00:

In Reply to: Re: are all 4's screwed up? posted by kate (68.101.6.123) on December 05, 2002 at 20:53:18:

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> That all the 4's I know eventually get to the point where they're so consumed with self pity and so wrapped up in themselves that they are almost unbarable to be around. They usually only have one friend that completely caters to their every need, buys them stuff, takes them places, does everything for them. Just an observation.

That is funny! I am 4 according to all tests I took and i don't know if I am healthy (I am new to enneagram) but I have never been “consumed with self pity”. I never took any drugs, no sleeping peels, no tranquilizers, or anything like that. I never smoked. I think that my life was and is very good in spite many problems I had (like drinking father, for example). I am in a great mood almost every morning if I slept more than 5 hours. I have two very close friends, about 4 good friends, and a bunch of people I consider to be just friends. I am considered by people around to be very strong, resilient, loyal, and supportive. Nobody caters for me and never did. I catered for my men. (It's common in Russia and I don't think it is healthy as well). I support myself, my daughter, and send money to my parents and to some of my friends back to Russia. Nobody did anything for me (except my parents of course). I am very independent. I like to help people but don’t appreciate when they are unable to stand on their own. Looking back I could see that all my Russian female friends are like that. They should be strong and independent. There is no other way to survive there. I wonder if the culture and different life styles has anything to do with that?

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