Posted by Denial (202.22.63.21) on January 13, 2003 at 04:34:16:
In Reply to: a very trying individual posted by Artemisia (65.31.170.98) on January 09, 2003 at 06:47:31:
Hello.
I'm a 5w4 too, so that puts us in the same area code.
The suggestions on deep breathing are good, and even the one to have some compassion. But then again, people have relied on compassion to shoot things that were dying and in pain, so maybe that's not the road you want to take (the compassionate one, not the shooting one).
hmmmmmm
I find your struggle epic and I respect it because I am in a very similar situation at the moment with a 7w6 ESTP who represents virtually all of the things in life that I am unable to withstand on an ongoing basis. If you go to the 9types.com board and find the 'things that bother 5s', you will find a grocery list of virtually all of the things that this person does. And this is daily.
The solution? get selfish and turn off the 4 wing for a while, it's not helping. go to 8 pdq. don't expect your 6w5 fiance to stick up for you if he hasn't already, he'll more about loyalty than about mental health on the criteria for being revolted scale. You said the revulsion is getting to you. I KNOW how you feel. Don't spiral downwards and end up doing something manic (like I did last time the 7w6 ESTP got to me).
I think it's fair to say that some people just don't get along. I don't see why your husband has to break up his friendship with his high school friends. if he can't handle not doing the couple thing, then maybe yo uguys can see a movie instead of sitting across from each other and (you) suffering. or rent a movie that is somewhat stimulating, or play a board game of some kind that has SOME redeeming qualities so that your night is not a total loss.
PS your friend sounds like a counterphobic 6w7. I work with a counterphobc 6w7. My sincere condolences. I mean that utterly.