Posted by Amy (66.125.89.234) on January 19, 2003 at 21:17:43:
In Reply to: 5s and the mating ritual posted by Ryan (65.141.165.62) on January 18, 2003 at 23:41:42:
Thanks, Ryan. I think you're right. When I'm not feeling aggressive/confident (when I feel confident, I tend to get aggressive with guys--arrow to eight), my attempts at flirting have probably been interpreted as simple friendliness or perhaps oddness. I remember showing my attraction to one guy by being sarcastic with him--he probably thought I was being mean! When I *am* feeling aggressive, that's when I act wilder, in a more openly flirty way, and that's probably when I've gotten a guy to realize I want him. I'm more likely to act this way when I'm out with friends than when I'm out alone. And I'm also more likely to be openly flirty with strangers than with guys I already know. Another factor is acting before stopping to think about it--I think it's more natural for me to behave aggressively, but I hinder myself when I stop to think about what I feel like doing instead of simply doing it.
Amy