Posted by Ev (65.69.223.148) on January 20, 2003 at 21:21:33:
In Reply to: to Ryan posted by Amy (66.125.91.124) on January 18, 2003 at 19:10:44:
As both you and Diarmuid have stated, romantic entanglements with co-workers can be an awkward business. I was particularly drawn to your not wanting to be the one to 'break the ice' so to speak. I mean, how do you put the Genie back in the bottle? But, in order for anything to happen one of you is going to have to take the bull by the horns. It's also been my experience, limited that it is, that the female has much less risk of out right rejection by the male. Maybe the guy isn't so good at 'reading signals'. After all, men don't come forth from the womb understanding the equivalent of feminine semaphore. :)
Ev
> You made this remark in an earlier post: "And good-looking Five females probably do not flirt in a way that gets them many sexual partners." Could you elaborate on that? I'm a female five who likes to think of herself as good-looking. I definitely believe I often flirt in a way that most guys wouldn't identify as flirting. I'd be interested in knowing how you came to this conclusion about female fives and flirting. There's this movie I like a lot called "101 Ways (The Things a Girl Will Do to Keep Her Volvo)" in which the female lead (a five) has a thing for the grocery check-out guy (which I can totally relate to--I enjoy having my group of cute guys at various businesses I frequent to look forward to seeing--the Trader Joe's guy, the video store guy, etc.), and she's talking to her friend about how she just flirted with the check-out guy. Her friend couldn't tell she was flirting. She says something like, "Couldn't you tell I was flirting with him from the tone of my voice?" Her friend doesn't know what she's talking about. Again I can relate. I have a co-worker I'm attracted to and I'm hoping to build up enough little flirty moments with him that eventually we'll both have to admit we want to get together. I'm shy, and I think he is, too. I'm not sure if my flirty signals have gotten through to him, and I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into what seem to be flirty signals from him. I realize this all sounds very foolish, but I don't want to make a blatant move in case he's not interested, particularly since I'll continue to see him in work-related situations. Anyway, please let me know what you know about female fives and flirting. Thanks.
> Amy