Posted by Amy (67.116.50.109) on January 21, 2003 at 00:16:48:
In Reply to: Re: 5s and the mating ritual posted by deras (65.64.136.131) on January 20, 2003 at 01:30:47:
Even though I'm horny, I'm interested in more than sex with Justin (my co-worker). I haven't had sex in around three years which presumably proves that I'm not just looking to get laid as well as explains my horniness! It makes sense that since he's probably a six that it's important for me to make things clear, but, due to my shyness/insecurity, that's difficult for me to do! This whole process has been going on since October!! I thought briefly that I was a six, but five feels more like home. I'm pretty sure everyone else in my family (mother, father, sister) is a six, so I'm sure I'm influenced by that. However, I'll take the enneagram test you mentioned. Oh, I've definitely let my instinctual drives motivate me in the past which has led to a lot of one-night stands. See, this is part of why I haven't had sex in so long--I'm refusing to give in to having sex with someone who I'm only physically attracted to. I want to be with someone who I have the attraction triad with, like you said. It is very important to me to be with someone I'm mentally attracted to. Fortunately, I at least have a friend (another co-worker) now who I find mentally attractive--she's another five, and I have a lot of fun talking with her. She is married to a six, and I'm generally sexually attracted to sixes, so we can relate on that level, too. I haven't spoken to Justin at length yet, but he seems intriguing. I also believe he's a good person, which sometimes seems like a rarity. I'm trying not to idealize him. We'll see.
Amy