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Posted by Rotten Apple on November 20, 2000 at 19:53:08:

In Reply to: Re taboo post posted by Margaret on November 20, 2000 at 16:21:11:

Margaret,

I'm glad you still have the patience to respond to me but as you may suppose, I'm not interested in a moral lesson. (Particularly from one who can't even spell out the word "sex" like an embarrassed 12 year old.) But perhaps on the topic of manners, we can set out differences aside for some useful discussion?

I agree that knowing how to use social rules and etiquette is important for a variety of reasons. But in the case of the type 5, I would say those reasons have more to do with handling the other person than with one's personal morality. (Yes, I know how to be perfectly polite in the proper context. That is what makes me a dangerous devil.)

How do you feel about the adaptability of social standards. Do you think one must always adhere to their own set of manners (stick to your guns) or should behavior be altered to suit the environment (when in Rome)? Say you were visiting an island in the South Pacific where the natives considered it offensive to smile in public... would you make a special effort to keep a straight face while in their company? What if it were a Middle Eastern country where propriety requires woman to cover all but hands and eyes... would you adapt without argument?

To sum up... if manners are culturally derived and values internally derived, how do you balance a conflict between them?

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Re: Context Laurence 01:21:27 11/21/00 (2)
- Internal/External Rotten Apple 11:08:13 11/21/00 (0)
- Re: Context M 09:03:17 11/21/00 (0)
Re: Context Margaret 20:48:42 11/20/00 (7)
- ok, M 20:59:21 11/20/00 (6)
  - Just as I suspected... Rotten Apple 11:28:39 11/21/00 (4)
    - what's this? M 13:50:45 11/21/00 (3)
      - Actually, what you really said was "yeah, spank me....I love it" M 14:00:05 11/21/00 (2)
        
        Hahhahaha. I don't slip... I lie deliberately. nt Rotten Apple 15:04:07 11/21/00 (1)
        
        Re: Hahhahaha. I don't slip... I lie deliberately. nt Margaret 15:52:19 11/21/00 (0)
  - hahahaha TheGauntlet 23:26:28 11/20/00 (0)

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: Margaret, : I'm glad you still have the patience to respond to me but as you may suppose, I'm not interested in a moral lesson. (Particularly from one who can't even spell out the word "sex" like an embarrassed 12 year old.) But perhaps on the topic of manners, we can set out differences aside for some useful discussion? : I agree that knowing how to use social rules and etiquette is important for a variety of reasons. But in the case of the type 5, I would say those reasons have more to do with handling the other person than with one's personal morality. (Yes, I know how to be perfectly polite in the proper context. That is what makes me a dangerous devil.) : How do you feel about the adaptability of social standards. Do you think one must always adhere to their own set of manners (stick to your guns) or should behavior be altered to suit the environment (when in Rome)? Say you were visiting an island in the South Pacific where the natives considered it offensive to smile in public... would you make a special effort to keep a straight face while in their company? What if it were a Middle Eastern country where propriety requires woman to cover all but hands and eyes... would you adapt without argument? : To sum up... if manners are culturally derived and values internally derived, how do you balance a conflict between them? : RA

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