Posted by Cecil on November 29, 1999 at 16:03:30:
In Reply to: You also have us as friends. n/t posted by Gigi on November 29, 1999 at 02:08:39:
> > I had a nice T-day yesterday, I hope all else did too.
> > I spent the day at a church with other people just like me with no frineds or family, but did not want to be alone.
> > I met people who were nice and that was the best part.
> > It was a non-hostile environment.
> > That's why it was the best T-day I ever had.
> > Last year, I slept through it.
> > The years before that, I spent it with family.
> > It's always good to spend it with family, but there is 'incongruence'.
> > I am an 'outcast' in a familial environment which makes little room for accepting others who don't fit into 'place assigned'.
> > This makes for much hostility.
> > I no longer choose hostility in my life.
> > Not that all 'transients' (homeless) are non-hostile.
> > Many of them are and create it.
> > Many of them are not, and have become family-less by choice, because their familial environments were too hostile for them.
> > My family ( and many of theirs) was never really physically abusive, but more psychologically abusive, which, too many people in this world feel 'obligated' to staywith due to the MYTH that spending holidays with family is better than with 'strangers'.
> > Well, I say this:
> > If your family is psychologically abusive and the strangers are not, then who is the REAL family and who is the REAL stranger?
> > I say the REAL answer lies in you heart, not some DNA test.
> > So, yes, I am glad I spent the day with 'transient strangers' who gathered in thatnice little basement in a corner church to spend the day together and keep each other company offer each other comfort and support.
> > If you can't share that with your 'legal' family, you find a REAL family you CAN share with.
> > Cecil