Posted by Tiggy on January 31, 2000 at 21:20:33:
In Reply to: And you don't? Look who's talking, just get help, and stop picking on everyone n/t posted by someone on January 31, 2000 at 20:41:13:
> > > That we don't already for which part?
> > > If you are referring to the 'get a grip' reference, that was made in a bit of a huff after reading some of the posts on the other boards that seemed to indicate an exercising of moral judgement that's not up to 'par'.
> > > However, this must be due to the gap of age difference more than anything else. It seems to me, that the most likely explanation for the somewhat under-developed sense of moral judgement, common sense, manners, and just plain, old decent behaviour on the parts of certain individuals who post on these boards are most likely due to their lack of real-world and real-life adult experience more than anything else.
> > > This must explain why these boards can be so frustrating at times. I've think I've had just about enough baby-sitting pre-teens, teens, adolescents, who have no idea what the word 'responsibility' means. I highly doubt most of these participants (with the exception of a few) have ever had any experience making a mortgage payment, holding down their own business, raising their own family, etc. It just seems that most of these participants are adolescents who have nothing better to do than waste their free time while living off of their lack of responsibility payments from their parents support.
> > > I know, I for one, would wish there were two separate boards, one for those, say, 35 and up, and one for those younger.
> > > Too many of these posts have come as a shock for me. Too many participants are simply not at the same age as I and a few others, therefore, that's why they must act as they do.
> > > An inter-generational board is dominated by inexperienced youth who have little to offer those much older and wiser.
> > > I am tired of reading people using foul language at others, calling others' names, hurling insults, the disgrace in behaviour on these boards are surely nothing to be proud of for them to show their parents.
> > > Too bad not more of their parents know what they are posting, if they did, the board's quality would improve somewhat.
> > > However, unfortunately, I doubt that will ever happen, therfore, the quality is most likely to remain at an adolescent, teen, and pre-teen level of communication. Certainly not that for the older participants, middle-aged, and beyond.
> > > I am taking leave of the message boards, and perhaps will come back from time to time to see if the quality of conversational posts amongst it's participants improve. If not, then I guess it was a nice idea, however, I would not let my children be subject to such unfavorable behaviour.
> > > Till then,
> > > for those who wish to remain, I can only wish you good luck,
> > > Margaret
> > >
> >
> > > > > Here's a 'spec-only-based' theory:
> > > > > Sub-types integrate and disintegrate according to our current levels of psychological health as well as our 'type'.
> > > > > The objective is to maintain 'equilibrium' between our three sub-types. When we do this well, and keep them in 'balance', we integrate the three pyschological sub-parts of our personality together, we reach the highest levels of health.
> > > > > When one or two of our sub-types gets out of 'balance' with the others, then we disintegrate to poorer levels of psychological health.
> > > > > For example, when a young woman confuses her need for self-preservation for intimacy, she ends up getting married too young because she thinks this will help her survive. While acting in the interests of self-preservation, she is actually confusing it as intimacy. Or, if a man marries a woman because he wants to 'look good' in fron tof society; seyes, he is actually trying meet his social needs by calling it intimacy.
> > > > > These people are getting all of their needs mixed up and then calling it the wrong thing.
> > > > > That's why to maintain the best, highest levels of health, we must push ourselves to keep these sub-type needs separate and apart and not confuse them with another.
> > > > > There's too many people running around acting like children, somebody must remind them to control themselves.
> > > > > I think everyone here should start getting a grip on things and control yourself.
> > > > > It starts with focusing on integration of apparently disparate sub-type parts of self.
> > > > > Margaret