Posted by Cory on February 28, 2000 at 18:33:34:
In Reply to: Relationship posted by Beth on February 28, 2000 at 17:16:49:
Some time back, I came across a discovery of a new set of triads in the Enneagram. I don't know if I was the first to find them, but I have to see them published in any enneagram resource. But anyways, 1, 2, and 8 belong to the "Parenting" triad. This triad seeks to be a "parent" or "guardian" to other people. Eights play a "fatherly" role, regardless of gender, by providing strength, decisiveness, protection. Twos offer a "motherly" role, regardless of gender, which is love, understanding, caring. etc. Ones are more of a "teacher" archetype. 4, 6, and 9 belong to the "Child" Triad, in that each of these types tend to be seeking a parent. Fours long for a rescuer, and are usually not that assertive. Sixes and Nines get into dependency issues. 3, 5, and 7 are "Independents" in that they neither desire the parent or the child role. "Parent" and "Child" are meant to be taken figuratively by the way.
So basically you are of the parent triad, and your husband of the child triad, thus there's a natural magnetism between you two. I have seen an overabundance of 2/4 couples, and I don't think that's by mere accident. Both the issues and needs of Two and Four complement each other, however problems can arise when the balance is thrown off, like when a Two starts intruding on the Fours need for independent space, or when a Four becomes to clingy and dependent on the Two.
-Cory