Posted by Z on March 01, 2000 at 21:42:47:
In Reply to: Re:I'm New! continued posted by Sean on March 01, 2000 at 19:09:24:
> Hi Z,
> How'd your test go?
18 or 19 out of 20. Possiblility of 2 extra bonus points. So it's like a score of 90 out of 110. Ugh! I didn't work hard enough! Shoulda get 105! I should put a ;-) here, but I'm actually serious. Sad, huh?
> I'd be careful about oversimplifying that Fours tend to get depressed. While Fours are well-known for lingering in sadness, all types can get depressed, I've seen it. Twos certainly do as well. Even more forward energy types (Sevens, Eights and Threes - my dad's a Three) can get depressed. It's more significant the character of the depression and what triggers the depression. For me, it's not being able to fix myself that does it... I've been known to savage myself for a lack of discipline, and a feeling of hopelessness of ever being good enough to merit loveability can overtake me, that's how depression works with em.
Some big name prestigious psychologist came up with some highly respected categories based on type. Since people think that person is SO important, you should agree, too! (I'm kidding this time. Really.)
> Don't worry about the wing too much, is my suggestion. If you're a Three, then you will probably know something about Two and Four territory, and you can leave it at that and work with your core point head-on. For Threes it's important to observe the automatic way attention goes to tasks and doing things for people - shining to get attention. When a Three catches themselves in the act of this type of habitual attention, they have a choice to still go ahead and spend the energy in that way if it's appropriate or to ask themselves instead, "What am I really feeling here?" It's a hard question, but to do real inner work it's always the hardest thing for your type that is the challenge.
I've decided I can go either way. I KNOW I'm social 3, so that's what I am sticking with.
> "What do I really want?"
I want to speak Spanish fluently and impress my teacher!
> "What do I really need?"
I need to practice with native speakers, be patient, and remember this is a long-term goal.
> "What am I really afraid of?"
I'm afraid of sounding unimpressive!
> "What am I really feeling?"
Like a failure of some sort.
In my brain, I know these thoughts are realistic and that I can't dedicate a huge amount of time to this. But STILL...
That 2 wing description sounds like me. Hmmm....