Typing problems

Posted by Mikko on May 31, 2000 at 08:17:33:

In Reply to: This is not about me! (#2 and the real version) posted by Gigi on May 31, 2000 at 00:24:38:

Yep,

that message of yours (posted on April 5) sure was weird strange.

I think that typing, online and otherwise, requires two things: 1) that the typees have a wish to be typed and presents themselves honestly as they are, and are ready to explain themselves when necessary 2) that the typers are open to different interprations and to the fact that any description often is interprated differently by different people. Subjective reality is different than the objective one, and they have to be compared when trying to type someone.

But still, the way how you described yourself, your inner motivations and so on...there was no single response to "why" in that list. You said it's important for you to find a significant niche in your life, but you didn't say you know *why* it is important. So it sounded as though you are aware of wanting to do that, but not why you want it. Maybe you are aware, but chose the words you did. The limitations of the medium, there's no way of telling what you were thinking. However, a reader can only know what he reads and therefore I say what you said doesn't tell that you have a strong sense of your deeper motivations, you are only aware of how they are realized. And I probably am wrong.

Here is a a person's description of himself. What would you think his type is?

I tend to be rather quiet. If I seem like drawing attention to me, it's non-verbal. I'm very aware of people around me. I often think what they think about me. I'm very rarely act hostily towards people I don't know. I have hostile thoughts, but it has often happened that when the subjects of those thoughts just talks to me, they dissolve. It hurts me when people ignore me or exclude me, I feel unwanted. Talking to strangers in order to get to know them is very difficult, because I always assume they won't like me anyway. It causes a lot of stress, because I like people and I would like to be liked too. Most people I know don't know anything about this. They probably think I'm sure of myself and that I know who I am and what I'm doing. Still, I have been trying to get attention from whereever I've been able to get it and as a result done things that haven't been good for me. I've let myself be suckered by abusive people because of my need for outside verification of my personality. In addition, doing anything that ends up evaluated is very difficult for me, because I feel like that evaluation decides my self-worth.

So, what would you say that person's type is, based on that? It goes pretty deep, and many people here on the boards are ready to tell someone's type knowing far less about them.

And yes, that person is me. If I started posting on these boards right now, having never visited before, that's how I'd describe myself, in all honesty. Would you have thought something like that goes through my mind, judging by what you've known about me thus far?

Mikko

Follow Ups:

• I would say Six Cory 20:04:49 05/31/00 (1)
  • Re: I would say Six Mikko 05:58:52 06/01/00 (0)
• Re: Typing problems Tiggy 18:47:37 05/31/00 (2)
  • Re: Typing problems Cory 20:07:49 05/31/00 (1)
    • Sixes and Fours share a deep insecurity. NT Tiggy 13:27:06 06/01/00 (0)

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