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Posted by Cory on May 31, 2000 at 20:04:49:

In Reply to: Typing problems posted by Mikko on May 31, 2000 at 08:17:33:

I have always seen you as a Six, not an Eight. This just confirms it more. Now, it points more to Six, since I see a strong connection to Three in it.

> I tend to be rather quiet. If I seem like drawing attention to me, it's non-verbal. I'm very aware of people around me. I often think what they think about me.

Sixes can fluctuate between phobic and counterphobic. I believe you to be primarily a counterphobic Six, however this does seem like a phobic aspect about you.

I'm very rarely act hostily towards people I don't know. I have hostile thoughts, but it has often happened that when the subjects of those thoughts just talks to me, they dissolve. It hurts me when people ignore me or exclude me, I feel unwanted. Talking to strangers in order to get to know them is very difficult, because I always assume they won't like me anyway. It causes a lot of stress, because I like people and I would like to be liked too.

This sounds like more of the average to healthy Six. They tend to be friendly, and what is very important to them is social acceptance.

Most people I know don't know anything about this. They probably think I'm sure of myself and that I know who I am and what I'm doing.

Sixes are very complex people and often have a very private person they keep from the world. For example, the belligerent bossy type of Six is really scared child underneath.

Still, I have been trying to get attention from whereever I've been able to get it and as a result done things that haven't been good for me. I've let myself be suckered by abusive people because of my need for outside verification of my personality.

You focus on being accepted and needed from an external source. And, like you said, your "need of verification from an outside personality" seems to be a very Sixish motivation.

In addition, doing anything that ends up evaluated is very difficult for me, because I feel like that evaluation decides my self-worth.

Most likely a connection to Three.

That's just my analysis. Accept it or ignore it.

-Cory

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> I have always seen you as a Six, not an Eight. This just confirms it more. Now, it points more to Six, since I see a strong connection to Three in it. > > I tend to be rather quiet. If I seem like drawing attention to me, it's non-verbal. I'm very aware of people around me. I often think what they think about me. > Sixes can fluctuate between phobic and counterphobic. I believe you to be primarily a counterphobic Six, however this does seem like a phobic aspect about you. > > I'm very rarely act hostily towards people I don't know. I have hostile thoughts, but it has often happened that when the subjects of those thoughts just talks to me, they dissolve. It hurts me when people ignore me or exclude me, I feel unwanted. Talking to strangers in order to get to know them is very difficult, because I always assume they won't like me anyway. It causes a lot of stress, because I like people and I would like to be liked too. > This sounds like more of the average to healthy Six. They tend to be friendly, and what is very important to them is social acceptance. > > Most people I know don't know anything about this. They probably think I'm sure of myself and that I know who I am and what I'm doing. > Sixes are very complex people and often have a very private person they keep from the world. For example, the belligerent bossy type of Six is really scared child underneath. > > Still, I have been trying to get attention from whereever I've been able to get it and as a result done things that haven't been good for me. I've let myself be suckered by abusive people because of my need for outside verification of my personality. > You focus on being accepted and needed from an external source. And, like you said, your "need of verification from an outside personality" seems to be a very Sixish motivation. > > In addition, doing anything that ends up evaluated is very difficult for me, because I feel like that evaluation decides my self-worth. > Most likely a connection to Three. > > That's just my analysis. Accept it or ignore it. > -Cory
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