Posted by Joe on June 02, 2000 at 23:10:56:
In Reply to: Third Borns posted by Perciever on May 30, 2000 at 19:05:27:
> Third borns represent a large and growing family. At this point the birth order is truly stacking up.
> Origional problem - being shamed by second born
I don't know if my older brother (second born) shamed me, but I have never gotten along as well with him as I have with my older sister (first born) or my younger brother (fourth born)
> Solution - be emotinonally strong
Yes, at least I try to be emotionally strong.
> Bad feeling - fear
Maybe. Doesn't everybody feel fear to some degree? I don't think I feel more fear than average.
> Felt loss - protection
Definitely, I always rely on myself for protection; I never expect it from others.
> Justice - no justice exists; help victims
I don't believe there is any real justice in this world, the best we can hope for is to help each other.
> Thinking - compare thing to generate ideas
Yes, I do this.
> What causes anger - being putdown
Nothing makes me angrier.
> Humor - embarrassing others
I feel like a hypocrite, but it's true, although I hate being put down, I can't help doing it to others.
> Relating - Helps others to please them
Yes I do this.
> Relational problem - must help others
Yes I do this
> Procrastination - puts off tasks for more
> fun activities
Yes I do this
> Achilles heel - inabilitiy to cooperate
I think I'm able to cooperate, but I do prefer to do things on my own.
> Boundaries - cannot set boundaries to keep
> others out
This is a hard one. I often worry about people "invading my space" so I often end up setting high boundaries.
> Strengths - compassion, practicality,
> imagination
I think this is true.
> Many third borns I know display fear reactions not like 5-6-7 fear types proper, but kind of like an expression of apprehension.
I'm not sure what you mean. How does apprehension differ from 5-type fear? I am a five, and when I feel fear it is "like an expression of apprehension". Are you saying 5-type fear is supposed to be something different?
> Developed thirds are generous, wise individuals.
I like to think I am. Perhaps I'm only fooling myself.
-Joe