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Posted by Joe on June 02, 2000 at 23:10:56:

In Reply to: Third Borns posted by Perciever on May 30, 2000 at 19:05:27:

> Third borns represent a large and growing family. At this point the birth order is truly stacking up.

> Origional problem - being shamed by second born

I don't know if my older brother (second born) shamed me, but I have never gotten along as well with him as I have with my older sister (first born) or my younger brother (fourth born)

> Solution - be emotinonally strong

Yes, at least I try to be emotionally strong.

> Bad feeling - fear

Maybe. Doesn't everybody feel fear to some degree? I don't think I feel more fear than average.

> Felt loss - protection

Definitely, I always rely on myself for protection; I never expect it from others.

> Justice - no justice exists; help victims

I don't believe there is any real justice in this world, the best we can hope for is to help each other.

> Thinking - compare thing to generate ideas

Yes, I do this.

> What causes anger - being putdown

Nothing makes me angrier.

> Humor - embarrassing others

I feel like a hypocrite, but it's true, although I hate being put down, I can't help doing it to others.

> Relating - Helps others to please them

Yes I do this.

> Relational problem - must help others

Yes I do this

> Procrastination - puts off tasks for more
> fun activities

Yes I do this

> Achilles heel - inabilitiy to cooperate

I think I'm able to cooperate, but I do prefer to do things on my own.

> Boundaries - cannot set boundaries to keep
> others out

This is a hard one. I often worry about people "invading my space" so I often end up setting high boundaries.

> Strengths - compassion, practicality,
> imagination

I think this is true.

> Many third borns I know display fear reactions not like 5-6-7 fear types proper, but kind of like an expression of apprehension.

I'm not sure what you mean. How does apprehension differ from 5-type fear? I am a five, and when I feel fear it is "like an expression of apprehension". Are you saying 5-type fear is supposed to be something different?

> Developed thirds are generous, wise individuals.

I like to think I am. Perhaps I'm only fooling myself.

-Joe

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> > Third borns represent a large and growing family. At this point the birth order is truly stacking up. > > Origional problem - being shamed by second born > I don't know if my older brother (second born) shamed me, but I have never gotten along as well with him as I have with my older sister (first born) or my younger brother (fourth born) > > Solution - be emotinonally strong > Yes, at least I try to be emotionally strong. > > Bad feeling - fear > Maybe. Doesn't everybody feel fear to some degree? I don't think I feel more fear than average. > > Felt loss - protection > Definitely, I always rely on myself for protection; I never expect it from others. > > Justice - no justice exists; help victims > I don't believe there is any real justice in this world, the best we can hope for is to help each other. > > Thinking - compare thing to generate ideas > Yes, I do this. > > What causes anger - being putdown > Nothing makes me angrier. > > Humor - embarrassing others > I feel like a hypocrite, but it's true, although I hate being put down, I can't help doing it to others. > > Relating - Helps others to please them > Yes I do this. > > Relational problem - must help others > Yes I do this > > Procrastination - puts off tasks for more > > fun activities > Yes I do this > > Achilles heel - inabilitiy to cooperate > I think I'm able to cooperate, but I do prefer to do things on my own. > > Boundaries - cannot set boundaries to keep > > others out > This is a hard one. I often worry about people "invading my space" so I often end up setting high boundaries. > > Strengths - compassion, practicality, > > imagination > I think this is true. > > Many third borns I know display fear reactions not like 5-6-7 fear types proper, but kind of like an expression of apprehension. > I'm not sure what you mean. How does apprehension differ from 5-type fear? I am a five, and when I feel fear it is "like an expression of apprehension". Are you saying 5-type fear is supposed to be something different? > > Developed thirds are generous, wise individuals. > I like to think I am. Perhaps I'm only fooling myself. > -Joe

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