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Re: Wing-type dilemma, Hal
Re: Wing-type dilemma, Hal
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Posted by Brian C. on August 17, 1998 at 10:20:53:
In Reply to: Re: Wing-type dilemma posted by Hal on August 17, 1998 at 07:59:42:
Hal, This is somewhat imprecise because desribing a sunset is not the same
as experiencing a sunset. I am in agreement that for a four, feeling is
being. That is one of the points made by the E,gr. It can become a fixation
wherein feeling is equated with being to the exclusion of willful intent.
Likewise, thinking can be equated with being (or feeling.) The limited point
that I am making is that there are three "intelligences." Focusing on one
or two of them is a fixation. The antidote is the third "intelligence."
It varies with the type and the fixation. This is not news to any of us,
but sometimes we overlook/underestimate the bias presented by the window
we are looking out of. While emotion/value/feeling is/are equally important
to living, not all of us equate it with being to the extent that a four does.
Moing away from life as we know it is defended against. My guess is that
for a four, that movement is a sad one and feels , perhaps, somewhat
common or ordinary. For me, a comparable experience would be to avoid
responding (action, conation), because I will experience the tension of
willfully having revealed through action that my thoughts and feelings do
not coincide with an "other." My process is different than yours. To
return to my Sunset analogy, verbalization is helpful but inadequate.
One of the beauties of E'gr is that it affords each type and all types a
mirror and a map. Explaining another type to that type is not possible.
We can only offer the view we see out our window and what our motivation
might be under the circumstances. In terms of primary colors: red, yellow,
blue. If you omit one color you are limited in your potential palette.
Add the missing color and the possibilities increase dramtically. Adding
the color is not the same as trying to become the color. That's it, my
best attempt to point out what I am sure you already realize. Well, why didn't
I say so. That's part of the point. Nines don't "say so." It's not worth the
effort, willful intentional effort. Now, I must get back to completing my
1997 tax return because the extension expires today.
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