Questions.......Hal?

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Posted by Christy on September 28, 1998 at 12:06:42:

Hal,
I've been thinking a lot about "integrating" to 1 and am confused as to how this actually happens. Does this mean "becoming" a 1 or taking on 1 traits with a 4 mindset. I've noticed that I tend to get preoccupied with responsibility, standards, ethics, being disciplined, etc. to the point where I'm coming up head to head with my husband (8) and fighting about it. The excesses that he loves drives me crazy and I'm sure the tight control over my life is driving him batty as well. It almost seems like I'm becoming more an 8 the stronger I get - but it isn't, its more like the righteous anger of a 1. I was kind of concerned that I had mistyped myself and maybe a was a 5 going to 8, but I really don't think that's the case and took the RHETI over today and scored:

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
21 13 14 21 18 20 6 14 17

So, I was wondering what your experience is like when you see yourself moving towards 1. Another quest of mine in the near future is figuring out how to work with my imagination and use it to my profit instead of demise. Any ideas?
Also, how to work on point 7 and bring the score up a bit. Kronus, any ideas? I know I need to lighten up, but something a little more constructive would help.

Thanks guys.

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Re: Questions.......Hal? Hal 11:20:27 9/29/98 (15)
- Re: Questions.......Hal? Not sure I have many answers.... Kronus 18:33:59 9/29/98 (14)
  - Some answers, some more questions Hal 13:50:52 9/30/98 (13)
    - Re: Some more answers Kronus 20:31:47 9/30/98 (12)
      - Re: Sublimate introject Brian C. 23:02:25 9/30/98 (11)
        
        Re: Thoughtful and concise... Kronus 08:34:18 10/01/98 (10)
        
        Re: Thoughtful and concise... Hal 10:00:18 10/01/98 (9)
        
        Re: Thoughtful and concise... Brian C. 01:02:49 10/02/98 (8)
        
        Re: Thoughtful and concise... Christy 16:28:21 10/02/98 (7)
        
        Re: There is the dark-side to SEVEN Kronus 22:48:45 10/03/98 (6)
        
        Re: There is the dark-side to SEVEN Hal 10:20:46 10/05/98 (0)
        
        Re: There is the dark-side to SEVEN Christy 09:54:39 10/05/98 (4)
        
        No, there was no easy time; yes I am a brat!!! Kronus 00:12:56 10/06/98 (3)
        
        Re: No, there was no easy time; yes I am a brat!!! Geenius at Wrok 10:28:34 10/06/98 (2)
        
        Re: No, there was no easy time; yes I am a brat!!! Christy 11:50:27 10/06/98 (1)
        
        Re: So perhaps the crucible is different? Kronus 19:24:31 10/06/98 (0)

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: Hal, : I've been thinking a lot about "integrating" to 1 and am confused as to how this actually happens. Does this mean "becoming" a 1 or taking on 1 traits with a 4 mindset. I've noticed that I tend to get preoccupied with responsibility, standards, ethics, being disciplined, etc. to the point where I'm coming up head to head with my husband (8) and fighting about it. The excesses that he loves drives me crazy and I'm sure the tight control over my life is driving him batty as well. It almost seems like I'm becoming more an 8 the stronger I get - but it isn't, its more like the righteous anger of a 1. I was kind of concerned that I had mistyped myself and maybe a was a 5 going to 8, but I really don't think that's the case and took the RHETI over today and scored: : 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 : 21 13 14 21 18 20 6 14 17 : So, I was wondering what your experience is like when you see yourself moving towards 1. Another quest of mine in the near future is figuring out how to work with my imagination and use it to my profit instead of demise. Any ideas? : Also, how to work on point 7 and bring the score up a bit. Kronus, any ideas? I know I need to lighten up, but something a little more constructive would help. : Thanks guys.

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