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Enneagram Main Board Archive O.K., you do deserve more than the one-liner I gave you, I'll tell you what I disliked (and liked) about your list and why.Posted by Joe (...) on November 28, 2000 at 18:21:59: In Reply to: Re: Type 9 Top 10 list (at last!) posted by Alias on November 28, 2000 at 09:57:26: >A number of points: >Firstly, I was unable to post on the Top 10 list and told by the moderator to post here - so I did. This is meant to be here! O.K., I had thought this board was for serious discussion, but obviously I was wrong. >Secondly, I only seem to have posted half of this - there's more. I'll post it later. >Thirdly, this did come from a type 9 (via me :-) Really? Since you are a type 4 I assumed it came from a type 4. >Fourthly, you're saying the other top 10 lists aren't stereotypical!? :-) No they all are stereotypical, some are worse than others are. >Alias. >You don't understand why people find Homer Simpson funny (Does nothing all day, 'Hmm.... Doughnuts') This was the one that really angered me, what are you saying, that Homer Simpson is a 9? I find that a very long stretch. Or are you saying that 9's are stupid? I find that extremely insulting. If you are saying something else then maybe you should think about saying it in some other way, which better communicates your intent. >Contrary to popular opinion you have no trouble saying 'N...nn...nnn...nnn....nu.' (Translation: No.) This one was incisive; I do find it hard to say no to people, I find that I'll often rather say yes with no intention of actually doing something, than to actually say no to somebody. >You never, ever get angry, and if you'll kill anyone who disagrees. This is also very good. I tend to hold my anger in, but when I do get angry I get very angry. >You prove your decisiveness by taking just three months to choose the wallpaper. This isn't bad; I can have trouble making up my mind, but usually over something more important than wallpaper. And usually it is when I have to choose sides between two other people. For instance, it I was sharing a house with two other persons and one wanted wallpaper "A" and the other wanted wallpaper "B", then I would have a hard time choosing. But if it was for my own room, and I didn't have to worry about pleasing another, then I'd have no trouble choosing wallpaper. It's not choosing wallpaper, it's choosing between people that are hard. >When pouring coffee at the local Church someone says, "Coffee, and fast" then joins th elonger queue when they see it's you serving. This is one that I don't get. Are you saying that 9's are slow? I can be very procrastinating, and I can be lazy, and it is often hard for me to get started, but when I am actually doing something I can be very fast. >It's obvious to you that the three basic elements for survival are food, food and food. No. Maybe your friend has a problem with food, but I don't think that is a particularly 9 problem. Maybe I'm an atypical 9, but I don't ever remember reading about 9's having a problem with food. Nines can have problems with alcohol or drugs, perhaps your friend uses food as a painkiller? >When your flatmate insults you by suggesting that you live only for vast quantities of chocolate you rebute him harshly for forgetting the need for quality in Chocolate. See above. >You regard romance as a waste of energy. This one isn't bad, I often find that I think people waste too much time worrying about romance. That there really are more important things. >People say you blend in at parties but you don't care as long as you can get to the food. Again this atypical obsession with food. I think you almost have something here, but you've gotten the motivation backwards. Nines are often very introverted, and as introverts they often find it hard to mix with strangers, If I am at a party where I don't know many of the other people I might spend time by the food table eating, but that is only because if I'm eating then I don't have to make conversation with strangers. I do care very much, and I am very uncomfortable about being so introverted. If I'm standing by the food (or the bar, etc.) it's not because that's all that I'm interested in, it's because that's a good place to look busy without having to deal with strangers. >You get your type 4 flat mate to help compose this list and then get him to type it and send it. I can be lazy, but never in that particular way. My guess is that the top ten list was your idea, and your friend only went along because he couldn't say no to your face. Notice that he couldn't say no, but he let you do the work. What really is happening isn't laziness as your implying, but 9 type passive resistance. Maybe you should say: "You can't say no when your type 4 flat mate wanted to compose this list, so you gave the minimum effort possible while sulking to yourself." -Joe
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