Posted by Christy on August 24, 1998 at 11:11:49:
In Reply to: Re: Borderline Unhealthy Four! What Should I do? posted by Kate on August 22, 1998 at 01:28:30:
: Dear Autumn Lily (How Beautiful !)
: : The two things that have helped me the most (and I am a 4) are to get busy with activity -even activity that might not be what I particularly like doing (House work-yuck). My motto is DO -DON'T STEW. The other is to get interested in other people and really listen to them. This is hard for me as I am always taking things personally, or relating it back to myself. I have a long way to go on that. Basically-just keep busy and not thinking and introspecting so much and getting my mind off of me and onto others. Hope this helps.
: Smiles
: Kate
Could you give us some more insight on how "you" feel? When I'm really unhealthy I get very phobic and anxious, I think about suicide on a daily or hourly basis, and I write and write and write. I find that I need self-analysis at that point more than ever - but to think, not feel. If you cannot get past the feeling - find someone to help you analyze with you.
If this means buying someone's time (a paid professional) then do it. One of the most important things I've learned is that when I need help I have to ask for it. Sometimes you will need an outsider or a professional to give you feedback that you really don't want to hear but should. Find someone "honest".