Posted by Brian C. on August 26, 1998 at 23:29:55:
In Reply to: unhealthy 2's posted by Kristin on August 26, 1998 at 16:49:04:
Kristin, Two is good. Two is helpful. Two represses needs.
growth for a two is going to four in the sense that the two
focuses on their own emotional needs (very un two-like.) An
intimate can "help" a two by appealing to the innate goodness,
especially if they agree that God helps those who help themselves.
Sometimes the most active form of love is "tough love." A two
can empathize with this and recognize that they (the two) are being
good and helpful when they do not intervene. Containing the emotional
distress is difficult, especially if it is reflected on them as growth
at the distress of another. In other words, when the two let's the
person sink or swim, one wants to ackowledge the good and helpful
approach of the two in doing so. They helped a person learn to swim.
They are good. (Not they are growing and less manipulative.)
This is a tough assignment. I think. Notice how few two postings there
are? Now to be more inquisitive. The E'gr is about self-discovery.
You are inquiring about an "other." I'm an independent type (too much so)
I am always uneasy about "helpful" inquiries about others. Personal
requests resonate better with me. " I want to change but I don't know
how!" versus "My friend has a problem, how do I fix him/her."
This is my own personal issue so take it with a grain of salt. It's
just my opinion. Try giving the two a book on the Enneagram. Do not
give them a test. Appeal to their motivation. Good luck.