Posted by Brian C. on August 26, 1998 at 23:50:56:
In Reply to: Emotional honesty & E1s posted by Christy on August 25, 1998 at 09:05:37:
Christy, this is from the hip and not necessarily to the point. I am
surprised at the other fours I know who also report an important One in their
life. Family members of ones report a lot of critical experince. Nothing is
ever good enough ( except my sister, brother, the dog,.....) So my point is:
for a four with an issue with a one, isn't integration a lot like acknowledging
the "parent" within? We all hear us saying to our children things that sound
like our parents. If a four has a critical one parent, is going to one a lot
like dealing with the anger over the loss of the parent who could have been?
So, why on earth would four go to one if it meant being like Mom/Dad?
I suspect this is central to the "Contentment" issue represented in the
antidote to four. Siblings feel different because they paid attention in
their own style and interacted differently. An offering, no more. B