Re: Relationships

Posted by Carol V on November 13, 1997 at 06:36:57:

In Reply to: Relationships posted by Lisa Tony on November 13, 1997 at 00:59:38:

: I am an artist/helper (4/2) and my significant other is
: a thinker/perfectionist (5/1). Are we a good match for
: each other, are there any other similar couples out
: there and if so, what are your experiences?

: Thanks.

Hello Lisa, I may be way out there but I don't believe the enneagram is somthing we pick different types ...it's more about identifying who we are ......like with 4/2 or 5/1 ..........it would be more 4/3 or 4/5 ....or 5/4 or 5/6 or possibly both.... then again 4's move into a 2 energy during diisintegration and 5 likely to 1 so you may be stating more your types and the direction of your lives at this point but I promise you ......the other type you are is in the numbers on either side of the one you discover you are..........have you read about wings and also disintegration and integration where in fact during processes in our lives we journey the whole enneagram but none the less moving around is a transitory thing not the home base..so to speak. One aspect is our energy type and the other correlates to the movement of our lives.....

Also there are sections in Enneagram books that focus on compatiblity with types ......I'll see what I can find tomorrow and get back to you .......although in short .How do you treat each other .......I pretty much have found each type compatible depending on the emotional maturity of the individuals and their relalationships........the idea of the types is to reveal ..I believe that each of us have our virtues and vices .....we all have pitfalls and gifts and you'll likely agree that though it's difficult at times to be some parts of who we are ........generally you wouldn't want to be the other type even more.......and it really isn't cause one or the other is better or worse but rather we are more at home living with our virtues and vices........
and can't imagine having to deal with what another energy type might have to .......I think a key for finding your type more than the test even is to read about the child hood and the parental experience.....this seems to help people click or have that aha! experience.........listen to what you and your partner say as well here and there and the clear signs will be there ..you see Iam a 2 with a 1 wing ........all the time but when I am working out something in a possitive healthy direction I move into a 4 energy and become creative which appears to be a
2/4 but I am a 2/1 that moves into 4 when all is being worked out creatively ........8 is the disintegration point for 2's and you'll hear a generally caring person say who gives a hoot and they'll be protective and offensively defensive not that 8's are always like that but as a disintegration point the energy sure is.........catch ya later

energy.....You'll see the 9gram symbols with arrows explaining it ....I'm sure much clearer.and when in doubt ask Derf.....I do....talk to you later.

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