Posted by Elizabeth on March 29, 2001 at 10:50:14:
In Reply to: Whereas Fours perhaps just go on being naughty . nt posted by Tiggy on March 29, 2001 at 09:08:51:
> > > if their are what distingueshes them.whatever it is,it's centered on the dual conflicting nature of the primary types overuse and suppression of the same faculty.counterphobic sixes repress reactivly and phobics overuse.it also seems to be independant of wing type.any ideas?
> > From a developmental perspective, type 6 is stuck in a cycle of earning the right to make his/her own decisions. This struggle has been internalized into behavior that reacts against the restricting parent either with willful defiance or with passive compliance.
> > Reduce it down to a situation a small child faces at bed time. The child does not want to go to bed. The parent tells the child to go to bed. Either the child will submit and comply without argument or the child will chose to resist and defy the parent. If the child choses to resist, the parent must relent in favor of the child's choice or the parent must reinforce his/her authority over the child in order to get the child to comply, possibly resorting to the use of punishment or even physical force.
> > The next time the child chooses to defy his parents, he/she can anticipate that defiance will bring about a reaction from the parent. If that anticipated reaction is punishment, fear will be the natural emotional response for the child. Fear and anticipation of punishment raises the stakes of winning or losing a battle of wills. Either they will have to swallow their fear and throw a great deal of energy behind their efforts to defy and assert themselves (act counterphobically) or the anticipation of punishment defeats them internally before the parent can do it physically (phobic).
> > As this pattern is repeated in numerous arenas: taking a bath, eating vegetables, coming in when it's dark out, etc. A child learns to anticipate a general response that is likely to occur if they choose to defy the parent in any given situation. Phobic/Counterphobic patterns towards parents transfer to patterns towards other authorities such as teachers, police officers, employers.
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> > Type Three is similar to Type 6. However, Type Three is in a situation that is not based on punishment but reward. You will not see phobic/counterphobic reactions to authority rewarding an individual's behavior. That is why you do not have the same dicotomy of reactions.
> > Type Nine is neither punished nor rewarded. They have no reason to distinguish themselves from the other and prefer to remain in a peaceful, merged state.