Posted by Perciever on April 01, 2001 at 14:25:35:
In Reply to: Re: Parents posted by janis on March 31, 2001 at 13:40:01:
> they did hurt us kids a lot emotionally. they punished us a lot, even though we were pretty much angels. and didn't believe us if we said we were hurting emotionally. and even though we were all very bright and caught on quite fast to everything(luckily for us), there were times when we would make a few mistakes when learning to do something, and then were made to feel stupid, and useless. "mistakes are Not acceptable" lots of yelling and disgust at our performance. Also they seemed to delight in picking the one sore spot any of us had, and stepping on it. then if we got upset, they would just laugh and ask why we didn't have more of a sense of humour. this was not only me, the sensitive four, but also my sister the 8, a tough tomboy.
***My father, 5w4 estj is fairly weak in the social relations department.
Being a second born rational (5) type he is fairly critical. He makes
withering commments to undermine my self confidence. IN the past I might
have argued or reacted. Now I just make a blanket statement asserting the
confidence I have in myself and he shuts right up.