Posted by Elizabeth on April 02, 2001 at 21:22:10:
In Reply to: Re: Short answer posted by janis on April 02, 2001 at 18:58:48:
> > I have written a fair amount fours as the abandoned oral character below.
> > Nines are the symbiotic character. Basically, they have what fours long for--> the comfort, warmth, nurturance, and protection of the 'mother'. Developmentally a child is supposed to bond and then separate, forming a sense of self apart from the 'other'. Nines are very comfortable in their merged state. They do not fear abandonment; they fear differentiation.
> ****what do you think? is it unhealthy to be with a nine because they fill that longing in you --all that touchy feely stuff, the blind acceptance of you, the warmth and love that was missing?? do fours need this, or is it some sort of unhealthy behaviour for them to stay away from. i seem to date adoring guys that are super touchy feely, and make me feel special. lots of hugs, affirmation, etc. how, if at all, would this behaviour be unhealthy?
> i'm interested in your thoughts. :)
A relationship with a 9 should be very healthy for a 4. 4s need lots of warmth and nurturance. They need to feel love without fear of abandonment. On the other hand, I'm not sure it would be as healthy for the 9.