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Posted by JM on October 22, 1998 at 09:21:42:

In Reply to: Re: Riso's Star Personality posted by JWS on October 04, 1998 at 01:48:51:

: Dear John,

I have reviewed your communications and the comments of those who responded. Firstly, may I inform you that I am married to a 3x2 star personality. I cannot say she has been unhealthy on a sustained basis. Like any of us, she does slide to levels of unhealth when particularly provoked by existence. If your wife is in that state, then I extend my sympathy to you and suggest you withdraw temporarily from the arena until she tapers off.
I am an 8 and can match the volatility of 3's anger, yet have great difficulty doing so. If you are a 5, chances are you will get run over. At unhealthy levels, no personality is intelligent. Somehow, the emotional stress at unhealthy levels reduces the capacity to be intelligent of all personalities. It is simply unfortunate to have to be near the aggressive ones when they do get upset as their pattern needs to express their emotions.
Somehow, you may have to wait until the heat is dissipated before you can get in a word or two which are understood with relative clarity. And when you do start to come in and be accepted, it is your "heart", and not your wisdom, that can connect faster. Maybe holding hands or just being there quietly but caringly can have more dramatically positive results than the sutras of Buddha. The negative behavior of all types are universally founded on fear,
just manifested differently. Personality types, levels of developments,and environmental influences dictate the particular ways we each express ourselves, but you can be sure fear is a fundamental ingredient in any negative behavior. All of us who care for anyone must intuitively find the most effective way to ease the fears of those who begin to slide to unhealth. The best way is, of course, for the affected person (such as your wife, in this case)
to struggle his or her way towards emotional stability (awareness appears to be the only way for the person involved without the world intervening), but most of us appreciate some help from those who care.

Jm
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: : Dear John, : I have reviewed your communications and the comments of those who responded. Firstly, may I inform you that I am married to a 3x2 star personality. I cannot say she has been unhealthy on a sustained basis. Like any of us, she does slide to levels of unhealth when particularly provoked by existence. If your wife is in that state, then I extend my sympathy to you and suggest you withdraw temporarily from the arena until she tapers off. : I am an 8 and can match the volatility of 3's anger, yet have great difficulty doing so. If you are a 5, chances are you will get run over. At unhealthy levels, no personality is intelligent. Somehow, the emotional stress at unhealthy levels reduces the capacity to be intelligent of all personalities. It is simply unfortunate to have to be near the aggressive ones when they do get upset as their pattern needs to express their emotions. : Somehow, you may have to wait until the heat is dissipated before you can get in a word or two which are understood with relative clarity. And when you do start to come in and be accepted, it is your "heart", and not your wisdom, that can connect faster. Maybe holding hands or just being there quietly but caringly can have more dramatically positive results than the sutras of Buddha. The negative behavior of all types are universally founded on fear, : just manifested differently. Personality types, levels of developments,and environmental influences dictate the particular ways we each express ourselves, but you can be sure fear is a fundamental ingredient in any negative behavior. All of us who care for anyone must intuitively find the most effective way to ease the fears of those who begin to slide to unhealth. The best way is, of course, for the affected person (such as your wife, in this case) : to struggle his or her way towards emotional stability (awareness appears to be the only way for the person involved without the world intervening), but most of us appreciate some help from those who care. : Jm : : : : : : : : : : : : : :

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