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Re: Back to hell
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Posted by Geenius at Wrok on October 26, 1998 at 14:49:32:
In Reply to: Back to hell posted by Perciever on October 26, 1998 at 09:38:47:
: I've always had a hard time understanding the fixation of the one.
: As I understand it ones are afraid of being critized and condemned
: by a mean old man because their fathers rode their butts as children. Which is why I think the parental-orientation theory is broken. I had no
such experience.
: This is opposite six who identified with the father. ANy comments,
: Ones?
The fixation is that nothing is ever good enough as long as there's
something about it that can be criticized. The drive for improvement is
both internal ("I have to do better") and external ("Something must be
done about this"). However, the drive comes strictly from within (the
instinctual knowledge of right and wrong) rather than from without (the
desire for public praise or fear of public condemnation). It's often said
that Ones' chief fear is condemnation, but it's more a fear of what that
condemnation SIGNIFIES -- that is, it's a fear of falling short of what
one knows to be correct. I frequently police my own behavior by repeating
a phrase from the Confucian Analects: "To see what's right and not to do
it is cowardice." Ones and Sixes have certain things in common, but the biggest difference
is that Ones are rarely plagued by doubt, whereas Sixes constantly are.
Also, when (for example) a friend does something objectionable, the Six
is more likely to align himself with the friend, while the One is more
likely to align himself with the principle. (I had a Six friend who got
extremely angry with me once because I refused to drive her to the house
of a roommate who had ripped her off and whom she was hoping to get back
at. To her, my refusal was an affront to our friendship.)
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