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Re: Dave, Mykl, and interested others-8's and Power Issues

Re: Dave, Mykl, and interested others-8's and Power Issues

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Posted by Worried on October 27, 1998 at 16:39:56:

In Reply to: Re: Question For Dave, Mykl, and interested others posted by Ilmar on October 27, 1998 at 09:01:31:

: I agree with most of what you said. However, an Eight explained to me that Eights aren't as
: concerned with getting power as with stopping other people getting power over them. The best
: way to see it IMO is as 'attack is the best form of defense.'
: Emphasise 'attack' in that phrase; if one emphasises 'defence' one gets the counterphobic Six
: mindset.

: Ilmar

So, what is the reason that eights don't want others to have power over them? Is it because they are still protecting that inner-child who was emotionally injured when he/she showed their vulnerable side? Are they afraid of falling in love for this reason - does love make them feel too exposed and vulnerable to the possibility of being hurt?

I'm not as worried anymore about what may happen in a few weeks when I contact my friend. This chatroom has helped me see some things a little differently. However, having said that, he really, really was angry with me and I'm still keeping my fingers crossed. I don't intend to give up on him. He will have to be the one to call it quits.

(Semi) - Worried!

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: : : I agree with most of what you said. However, an Eight explained to me that Eights aren't as : : concerned with getting power as with stopping other people getting power over them. The best : : way to see it IMO is as 'attack is the best form of defense.' : : Emphasise 'attack' in that phrase; if one emphasises 'defence' one gets the counterphobic Six : : mindset. : : Ilmar : So, what is the reason that eights don't want others to have power over them? Is it because they are still protecting that inner-child who was emotionally injured when he/she showed their vulnerable side? Are they afraid of falling in love for this reason - does love make them feel too exposed and vulnerable to the possibility of being hurt? : I'm not as worried anymore about what may happen in a few weeks when I contact my friend. This chatroom has helped me see some things a little differently. However, having said that, he really, really was angry with me and I'm still keeping my fingers crossed. I don't intend to give up on him. He will have to be the one to call it quits. : (Semi) - Worried!

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