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Enneagram Main Board Archive Help! What's my type - any tips or opinions?Posted by Riina (213.243.174.159) on January 23, 2003 at 19:30:18: Hi everybody! I've now read couple of enneagram books (translated to Finnish - there aren't too many of those) and I wouldn't like to read through many of English just know because of the lack of time and of course my English isn't perfect (sometimes it takes time to understand the text). I still would like to get to know my type sooner or later (I have know thought it over from the beginning of December) and that's why I'm asking for some help now. I'd like to get some tips from you who know a lot of enneagram. I've taken few tests in the internet and I usually get totally different scores. First I thought myself that I'm 1. I've always been kind of perfectionist and I have a high moral and I always try to do my best. I've always succeed in my studies and in worklife but that does advert more to that I'd be number three. Then when I started to read more about enneagram I started to think that maybe I'm number 6: I'm VERY loyal, I do think that relation ships, family and love are very important (though I'd love to have a great career too and get success) and I'm very anxious and nervous from time to times - but only in my lovelife. I don't worry about studies or work or future, I'm only nervous that I get hurted in relation ships (which might have something to do with the fact that I got cheated a year ago - maybe it's not in my nature but I suffer of anxiety because of the circumstances). I also do not have hard time in making decisions. So I thought that it doesn't seem that I'm a six either. Or could I've be kind of a strong one - that I don't have phobias like others (because I dont- I do plan the future a lot sometimes and I like to know what's going to happen but I'm not nervous about it - the planning is in my opinion more one's behaviour than six's). Now I'm confused which type I am. It seems to me that I'm most like 1 or 6. In RHETI small test I got six points in 2, 6 and 7, five points in 1, three points in 4, 5 and 8 and zero points in 9. Could someone help me - could I find my type with the help of wings? I'm very empathic so I think my wing could be 2 if I'm 1 (but I think I'm too selfish to be 2) and also my wing could be 7 because I love to have fun etc. (but I'm too serious to be 7 and I don't care if there's not much variation, I more like to be secure). I know I can't be 5 because I'm very extrovert and I love other people's company - I do like to have time for my own too but usually I love to hang out with others. I could say that on my freetime I like to be with others but I like to work more on my own. I can't be 9 either (even they say that if you don't recognize your type you're usually 9) there's just not nine in me at all. Of course it can be that I just don't know myself, but I tend to analyze a lot (too much everybody says) and I do think that I know a lot of myself - more than people usually (ok, now you see that I'm not that modest (: ). I also don't think that I'm 4 - it just doesn't descripe me at all. So I think I must be either 1, 3, 6 or 8. I don't think I'm eight even I'm self-confident and usually take the leader's role in a group. Still I do think that there's more warm and sensitive sides in me to fit in the type 8. I have had pretty much stress problems even I'm only 24. I have lot of sleeping problems, atopic exema which gets worse when I'm stressed and I usually think all the time what I should do - I also have the habit to make all kinds of lists. Nowadays I'm more easygoing, I work less and don't study that much - I've learned my limits and I want to stay relaxed. That's why I wonder can I be 1 with wing 2 and I've just already learned a lot from myself and that's why I've started to improve myself. I also do think that in a peacufull situation I act like a 7 - the type my arrow goes. In stress situation I really don't exactly know how I react - it depends on many things. I'm not very patient and I do get angry very easily - on the other hand I'm not angry for very long. The thing why I'm thinking if I'm one is that I have comprehended that one's try to hide their anger - I never do that - I just let it out because I know that's the way for me. I know I should take it more peacuful and I try to do that. I know I'm the only one who can decide which type I am but I'm still asking for your tips and opinions. I did ask from my boyfriend who I think knows me very well and he thought that I'm number 1. I read from one book a lot of examples of six's and one's (I didn't tell which one I was reading) and he always chose the descriptions one one's to suit me more. That's why I'm wondering could I just be an extrovert and a very social type 1. Anyone who likes to discuss with me or tell me opinions/tips/feedback I'm very pleased to get help. Sorry if this was too long story (and sorry if my English wasn't that good). Hope you all get a lot of help by knowing your enneagrams - I sure would love to improve myself with it's help! THANKS and have a nice weekend :) P.S. If someone likes to send email that's ok too!
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