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Enneagram Main Board Archive Thank you and...Posted by Polly on December 21, 1998 at 16:37:13: In Reply to: Re: Want your observations/comments... posted by Hal on December 21, 1998 at 16:05:32: When I take these quizzes to help determine type, or otherwise read descriptions of the various types and try to identify with one, am I supposed to be considering what I actually *do* or what I *want to do*? As I said I'm resistant to some of the types (e.g., 5) because I don't like its attributes. A random thought...Strangely, I seem to identify with the negative characteristics of these types rather than seeing myself in the positives...definitely some (realistic) self-criticism. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts -- any more are welcomed! > If you think that was long, then you haven't read the posts by some of the 5's on this board (among others). :-) And it suggests that 5 is not your primary type. In my experience, 5's often have a one-track mind, and when something captures their interest, they pursue it full-force to the bitter end. > About the integrating/disintigrating, this is something I've had trouble explaining in the past as well. I don't believe that one direction along the arrow is strictly integrating (moving in security) and the other direction is strictly disintigrating (moving in stress.) I tend to just see strong connections among the types along the arrows. So 7 is strongly connected to 1 and 5. I'm a 4, which means that I'm "supposed" to go to 1 when secure and 2 under stress. But when I'm under stress, I also find myself becoming more picky, perfectionistic, and self-critical; the negative qualities of my 1 side. So I feel that the arrows really go both ways. > Many people here have their own views on wings. Mine, in short, is that it is another side of your personality that in some ways complements your type, and in other ways keeps you from getting what you most desire. No matter how you look at it though, your wing is a stong influence on your personality, so you will tend to score rather high in one or both possible wing types. This can also help you determine what type you are. For example, if you score very low in, say, 9, then it's less likely that 1 is you primary type. > The standard disclaimer to give here is that you need to look within yourself and decide what fits you best. I agree that introspection is vitally important, but asking questions and talking to others can be just as valuable. Others can often see things about you that you cannot, and you can often pick up on a word here and there that really hits home. Good luck in your search, and keep the questions (and answers) coming. > - Hal - > > > From what I've read, SEVENs go to FIVE in good times, not bad. I think that my primary motivation is fear, not anger (unless it's suppressed anger turned on its head into fear...?). So WHAT AM I? Can anyone reconcile this? > > Sorry that was so long. Obviously I find it complicated and would love anyone's insight into this. > > Now for a simpler question (I hope): Can anyone explain wings and how to ascertain which (if any) a person has? > > Thanks much.
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