Posted by Perciever on February 25, 1999 at 13:34:31:
In Reply to: 3 wing taking control posted by Christy on February 25, 1999 at 08:22:18:
> I've had a major insight into myself lately that I wanted to share-
> I've been using my 3 wing to consort socially - "acting" like the people I'm around. Example: I've been having problems with aggression and bitterness in dealing with my husband. This is because I have learned the hard way that I have to act as an eight to stand up to him. "But" this aggressive stance with him is interfering with my normal routine of getting emotional, then listening, and then finding growth. Instead, I end up feeling bitter and more pissed off. Hence, more rage. How to stop this now? I don't know yet. But to all the 4s on the board who I've told to stand up to the eights in their life - a word of warning about how far you go......
* Its easy to get caught up in an 8's power lust. The thing is when it
* comes down to the brass tacks an 8 will never give in. At least on a
* man to man level. I don't know how it is for a woman to man. My
* 4w3 ISFP female and 8w7 ENFP male (married, kids) friends have sex, lust,
* and drama as visible themes in their relationship. That is the side of
* their relationship they display to friends.
* Domestically however she stays at home a lot and he goes off on adventures.
* They are pretty happy this way.
* Another couple 8w7 ESTJ female and 9w8 ISTP male got married at 19 and
* had a stormy relationship. A lot of fighting. She used to punch him
* in the balls for compliance. She respected him after he grabbed her by
* the throat and threw her on the bed. PRetty crazy huh? They've been
* married 9 years, with 3 kids.
* I myself prefer 1's.