Posted by Bibi on February 14, 1998 at 11:32:05:
In Reply to: Re: Am I 4 or 7?!!! posted by Derf on February 12, 1998 at 01:27:19:
Derf, this is amuzing....I know all about showing off at the mall...hehe..I wasn't 9 when I did that, though...it was...e-hem... last year! I wasn't aware of it myself, but my husband asked me why I always had to "clown around" when we were shopping together...I don't know why I did it. I don't do it anymore (except when I'm with my sister...the two of us together is like two giggeling 13-year olds...)
I know what you say about being organized, making it an art! Either I mess like crazy, or I go down to the tinyest detail and organize my stuff in neat, colourful boxes. I have like 250 pens on my desk, and when I organize them I sort them by color, length and brand in 10 different cups, each carefully picked to look good on my desk...And if you take a look in my fridge you will either have the food greeting you at the door on their way out, our see them all lined up after color and size....
You say that my selfishness is the 4's stress movement to 2, I'll have to read more about the disintegration of 4 but I thought that only the 4 that hates herself would go to 2, and I don't hate myself. Neither am I in a neurotic state (not at the moment anyway).
Maybe my selfishness is more a defence of being pushed around, I used to say "yes" when I meant "no", and now that I'm learning to set my own limits, I have maybe gone a bit too far and ended up selfish instead.
(OR: I THINK I am selfish because I used to strive so much to NOT be, and now that I DON'T say yes all the time I am more selfish compared to what I was before.) You made me think more about what I had said here, and I asked 2 close friends who said they never saw me as being selfish at all! (So, I must have fooled them! hahaha)
As for who or what I am, 4 or 7, I am leaning more and more to the theory of me being a 4 with a UNIQUE amount of 7-ness in me! Ha! I'm just so different from everybody else - and I LOVE it! Hehehe. (Or like I said to a friend the other day when he asked if I felt like a 4 or a 7, I said I felt like an 11! 4 + 7 = 11!)
Let's say I am a 4; then I guess my wing is 3, but I'm not a 100% sure yet. I would think my high self-esteem comes from a supporting 3-wing, what do you think? I guess it's true that I have some "narcissistic tendencies (exhibitionistic desires for attention and admiration)" (as Riso puts it in Discovering Your Personlity Type; The Four with a Three Wing).
Me inexplicable? Nothing would please me better....*grin*
Thanks for your inputs, it's been of great help!
Bibi
PS - What 4 questions?