Posted by Diarmuid on April 29, 1999 at 05:02:55:
In Reply to: Re: Sexual matter posted by Hal on April 28, 1999 at 10:05:42:
> > > > Are you saying us 4's aren't trustworthy!!! LOL.
> > > > No, really, I think it has also to do with level of healthiness as well. I would hate to write off any number before I got to know who they were, as an individual.
> > > > But that's just me. :-)
> > > SUMMER!!! -Finally someone who has GOTTEN THE POINT!!!! -I'm DEAD serious!
> > > We must stop being so damn type-focused! You go, girl!
> > > As for my sexual preferenses, or whatever, ANY type will do! (I'm married, though, so my choice is limited...*g*)
> > > -Bibi
> > Thats the challenge for fours - to get out of self absorbed me, me, me and unlock the objectivity of the one. Objectivity tells
> > us this is an enneagram board. Enneagram is about types. Thus we discuss types!
> > On the other hand, no-one likes being fastly sterotyped. But it happens. Thats why I don't understand fours!
> > But then most fours don't understand themselves either...theirs is a lifelong search for an identity.
> Yes, we're on a lifelong search for our identity, but my 4-ish self-absorption, 2-ish pride, and 1-ish objectivity tells me that we 4's understand ourselves better than most other people. It may just be because something compels us to spend so much time and energy searching, but I really do feel that we're good at it. On the other hand, we are always changing, and there are times when I don't feel that I understand myself, and have serious doubts about everything I do and everything I am. So it's no wonder that most people find us hard to understand. I would just ask my friends to be patient with me, and I promise to do the same for them.
> - Hal -
Do you share my attraction to 8ish gals, or is that my own unique preference? Also, how can anybody know the egram for this long and NOT gain an understanding of fours. Most of the books and tapes describe us pretty well?