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Enneagram Main Board Archive Re: Not all enneagram reviews are accurate!Posted by Claudia on March 06, 1998 at 12:54:08: In Reply to: Re: Not all enneagram reviews are accurate! posted by Derf on March 05, 1998 at 00:34:56: : I have reason to believe that I was *born* a 3 (I never would have thought so, but my parents related many stories about my early childhood). Extroverted, talkative, jaded on attention from others - that's the "me" I cannot remember. However, a physical traumas a few years later (temporary hearing loss, age 4 or 5) caused me to withdraw remarkably deeply, often at the cost of my very acknowledgement of the outside world! From that point on, I've been an introverted dreamer, and I lost most of my social (and otherwise outward) inclinations. I have read that 4 is an "inner" version of 3 in many ways. I still feel more like a 4 most of the time. Maybe I'm wrong about all this - after all, most 4s seem to "remember" being "happier" (from the point of view of average 4s, that could probably be any other point) before their consciousness was "skewed." Does anyone relate to an experience like mine, in which personality was altered, seemingly, by some event? (It would probably have to be in early childhood, if presiding developmental theories are correct). Don't forget that one wing of 3 is 4 and vice versa. It is possible that you had a traumatic experience that caused you to close off. In these cases it is very difficult to really see what the personality fixation is. I am personally struggling with equal questions. I have tried to see how I am in stress and in happy periods of my life and to take it from there. Are you going to 9 (inertia) in stress or to 2 (ingratiating manipulation) ? That could give you a clue as to where your personality fixation really is. I believe that we come with a fixation (learning potential) and then the happenings of life pushes us into either the wings, or the stresspoint. I have seldom encountered the life's struggles that push you into the heartspace... Hope that gives some food for thought.
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