Re: To be a 2 (or not 2 b)

Posted by Hal on June 28, 1999 at 10:51:34:

In Reply to: Re: To be a 2 (or not 2 b) posted by Emma on June 28, 1999 at 07:06:22:

> > After having spent some time really looking inside, I took the RHETI again skipping four questions and, very much to my surprise, it scored me as a two and very clearly so. So, I'm a 2w1.

> > All right, one of two's vices is self-deception, but what I've understood is that the type is very outgoing, sociable and has very strong interpersonal qualities. I can recognize the "giving" part of two in myself, but not that social part. Have I just misunderstood something here?
> > I feel the need to be close to people, but there's something else stopping
> > me and making me rather closed and not very outgoing, the reason why I have thought I might be a five or four. I'd apprciate any comments on this.

> > Ronnie

> I don´t see that being outgoing or not is determining 2-ness. Look on motivation not behaviour,
> do you have that desire to help people, in order to make them like you?

> Sorry, that I can´t give more help right now. Hope you like me anyway.

> Emma

2's are not necessarily extroverts--I know several introverted 2's. I would tend to interpret "outgoing" as "going out of your way"--It has nothing to do with being social in the sense of being the life of the party, but does have to do with interpersonal qualities. In a healthy 2, this will come through as being personable, well-liked, giving, and making others feel good about themselves. In unhealthy 2's, it comes through as strongly manipulating others into giving you what you want, and controlling others. The self-deception here is that the unhealthy 2 is unaware that he/she is doing this, but instead feels that he/she is helping others.

- Hal -

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• Two it is Ronnie 14:11:10 6/28/99 (2)
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