Posted by Gigi on June 29, 1999 at 11:09:40:
In Reply to: Re: 5w4 or 9w1 (anger and negotiating strategies) posted by Deep Thought on June 27, 1999 at 15:57:10:
> How do 5's handle anger? Can an individual be a five and be harmonius to the point that they never get angry? I also see a difference between a nine just going along and later just doing what they want, and avoiding confrontation by going along and over time negotiating a new position.
> The nine/five style seems very asian to me in that yes probably means maybe and maybe usually means no. I know that's the case with me simply because I don't like directness and always need time to think about things. Maybe this alone defines the nine, but I wonder if this could also be five behavior.
> Deep thought (one who thinks he may be a five, but identifies with the 9)
I know two 5's, both a 5 with a 4W (one male, the other female). They are both patient people; therefore, they don't show their anger openly. Instead, they strike at people bitterly in a sarcastic way. They analyze the other person and bring forth the analysis outright with no apologies before or after. That analysis pushes you away and you start thinking "What have I done now?"
I have come across the anger from a 9 with a 8W several times. When he is angry, he spurts it out. This man is doing a lot to control it: He does meditation; he is into Sufi teachings, he reads Rumi's poems all the time, also whenever we get together; he does a lot of exercise, he swims even in cold weather; he does not eat meat, only vegetables cooked in olive oil and fruit and salad ;he does not smoke or drink alcohol
He may sound very boring but he is not. He has a lot of humor and charisma. But the he is a nine; he likes to keep the present as it is. He does not go to movies very often because he does not want to be disturbed. He is also very stubborn and does not wish to be influenced. When we try to influence him or try to change his ideas he gets angry, just angry, no analysis like a 5.
By the way I think it is a good idea to look at types through people we know. Regards, Gigi